Oldest is in dire straits. Hasn't been paid in 3 weeks (she says), hasn't paid June rent, July 1 is next week. Hours are cut at work (so even if she got her paycheck, it won't be enough to cover rent), and no new job in sight. If it were me? I'd be out every single day looking for another job. She claims she's applied places. .but when I push for specifics, I get excuses. Like, I asked if she's applied anywhere since her last [alleged] job interview on Monday.. she said no, and made many excuses as to why not. Also, on Monday afternoon, when I called her to come pick her up (to be at the hospital for the birth of Youngest's baby), she said she was going to "jump in the shower." Now, if she'd had an interview at 1 pm like she told me, wouldn't she have already taken one? (before you suggest it, Oldest never takes 2 showers in one day, ever.. sometimes she doesn't even take 1 a day). So, either she lied about the interview, or she went to an interview without showering. Blech. Monday she also told me that her roommate's father was going to help her out with rent and that all would be ok. Today, she said her *roommate* was going to help her out but now he can't. Then she said, I could ask his father for help but I can't get ahold of him and it's too late. I said, I thought he was already going to help you? And she backpedaled and said no, he *offered* .. but I didn't take him up on it, and besides I don't have his phone number. Whatever... lies, lies, lies. I sure don't have the money to help her. I already helped pay for another month of cellphone service for her, so that prospective employers coudl reach her. For all the good that did. And the clincher ... she had applied and been accepted for the fall semester at a local commnity college. She's withdrawing. She didn't say it was because of money, mind you, she said it was because she didn't know where she'd be living and wouldn't have a way to get there. Umm the campus is in the city ... I said, well it's on the busline, and anywhere you live has to be on the busline, anyway, since you have no car. She said: "I don't know where I'll be living, and no one around here will let me stay with them I already tried, so I don't know if I'll be on the busline." Translated? This could mean she thinks she could live with me. The weekend I moved in, she commented, "wow, look at all these places within walking distance of your place.. if I lived here it wouldn't matter that I didn't have a car, I could get a job around here and walk to work!" Um yeah, right. So, she could be evicted as early as this weekend (she's not on the lease). This is the same old cycle.. I'm so tired of it. Work, lose job, lose place to live, stay with friend, find another job, lose job, lose place to live, find another friend, rinse and repeat. Yet I can't help but cringe at the idea of letting one child live with me temporarily, and refusing the other. The difference, of course, is that Youngest has kids ... Oldest doesn't. Oldest has also put herself into this situation over, and over and over and OVER again ... and my letting her stay with me wouldn't change a darn thing. Yet with 104 degree temps today, the thought of her homeless isn't making me feel great right now. Interesting, also, that this occurs when the focus is on Youngest and her new baby. Timing is everything.