Forums
New posts
Search forums
What's new
New posts
New profile posts
Latest activity
Internet Search
Members
Current visitors
New profile posts
Search profile posts
Log in
Register
What's new
Search
Search
Search titles only
By:
New posts
Search forums
Menu
Log in
Register
Install the app
Install
Forums
General Discussions
The Watercooler
OMG. Dropped in My Lap LONG!
JavaScript is disabled. For a better experience, please enable JavaScript in your browser before proceeding.
You are using an out of date browser. It may not display this or other websites correctly.
You should upgrade or use an
alternative browser
.
Reply to thread
Message
<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 658263" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>I share some of this history. About your sister's age, perhaps 40 was when it came up for me.</p><p></p><p>It all surfaced for me after learning my Dad had died. I at that time had no contact with any family members. I was alone.</p><p></p><p>I remember being unable to bear the horrible feelings. I did not know at first from where they came. I called an Adult Survivor's hotline. I do not why.</p><p></p><p>I will remember my whole life, the end of the recording:</p><p></p><p>"It is not your fault. It was not your fault."</p><p></p><p>These words began the process of healing.</p><p></p><p>That was the beginning of knowing.</p><p></p><p>I went to a 12 step group.</p><p></p><p>I found that therapy, for me, was not the thing that helped. It was those groups. And then finally, deciding, I no longer needed them.</p><p></p><p>I think things happen for a reason. It took real courage on her part to get close to a man and risk.</p><p></p><p>If the feelings are coming out, now, it may be because she is strong enough to bear them.</p><p></p><p>Of course you can't. Your survival was at stake, then and now.</p><p> That is always a risk, for many of us. With our children.</p><p></p><p>Do not minimize yourself the shock you have experienced. You know you must protect your own resiliency, hard-fought and hard-won.</p><p></p><p>As other respondents have said, your sister will find the strength in herself, or not. You have given her, already, a lot. A model of strength, courage and responsibility. Of love. A great gift.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 658263, member: 18958"] I share some of this history. About your sister's age, perhaps 40 was when it came up for me. It all surfaced for me after learning my Dad had died. I at that time had no contact with any family members. I was alone. I remember being unable to bear the horrible feelings. I did not know at first from where they came. I called an Adult Survivor's hotline. I do not why. I will remember my whole life, the end of the recording: "It is not your fault. It was not your fault." These words began the process of healing. That was the beginning of knowing. I went to a 12 step group. I found that therapy, for me, was not the thing that helped. It was those groups. And then finally, deciding, I no longer needed them. I think things happen for a reason. It took real courage on her part to get close to a man and risk. If the feelings are coming out, now, it may be because she is strong enough to bear them. Of course you can't. Your survival was at stake, then and now. That is always a risk, for many of us. With our children. Do not minimize yourself the shock you have experienced. You know you must protect your own resiliency, hard-fought and hard-won. As other respondents have said, your sister will find the strength in herself, or not. You have given her, already, a lot. A model of strength, courage and responsibility. Of love. A great gift. [/QUOTE]
Insert quotes…
Verification
Post reply
Forums
General Discussions
The Watercooler
OMG. Dropped in My Lap LONG!
Top