i use to know this stuff and help others... and I am completely brain dead now... I have tried to reboot my memory.... and it just washes together... DOES THIS SITE OFFER ME A TUTOR?????? long story short. daughter had problems in school for years, behaviorally...i didnt want to have her labeled cause she is popular and normal ....principal and some teachers started bullying her last year (not just her opinion, mine too)....so I decided to get something done to insure she gets a fape...etc 1) diagnosis is bipolar. and she cycles RAPIDLY...you know the poster that says 0-witch in 60 seconds?? thats my kid. but she is mostly a kind sweet cuddly kid...beautiful beyond belief...but she knows more than any adult...and isnt afraid to say so. 2)unfairly suspended last year as well as unfairly in in school suspension once last year. 3)history of meeting with teachers and principal in this school for two years where I would tell them how she is and ask for help.... without qualifying her..and they would promise they would...but then they did nothing and actually held her to a higher standard than her peers. OKAY...so the sd has given me the 504 referral. You know they did the "your daughter positively doesnt qualify for iep because she is straight A's"..and I did the "well..when she rages, or cant concentrate that will effect her work and when she is hyper and cant sit in her chair and misses the lecture notes..etc" so the sd say...we can guarantee a 504 pretty fast..but with an iep it could take months with the "due processes" and stuff.. so back in the day i knew the major differences and in my head I think I want the iep...based on me remembering a 504 is just a bunch of garbage without any enforcement abilities..and they can still remove your child from school for her behaviors related to bipolar. what do I want? her in regular classes (unless she starts having learning problems)....but with behavior mod's in place to allow her to get away as needed for anger...etc. a therapist (our sd has lisc. ones here) which will see her once a week without her peers really knowing...and she can go to him/her as she needs to. For no teacher to put her hands on my daughter..including on her nose to tell her not to be "nosey"...or to "shake" her to get her attention while she is raging...for her to be allowed absenses due to the fact she doesnt sleep well and is often groggy /moody in the morning....for her to not be forced to read books other than her regualar CLASS books. She has a hard enough time reading a chapter of science.... then she is suppose to read 4 books each quarter to be tested on...she cant do it and has proved this the past three years. for her to have extra time for her homework if she is in one of those 'zones'...and has to go to bed early, cant focus...rages..etc. for her not to have to sign papers that implicate guilt or admit to guilt or any simulance thereof without ME being present. Last year she signed some things becasue she was told "this is not admitting you are guilty, and you must sign it or serve iss". Everytime she signed those things the principal used em against her as in "see she signed it to admit she did this"...so i told her in front of him she is not to sign them without me present...he said that was okay..but a month later gave her an iss for that very issue. (yeah he's a jerk who bullies kids) and for most of this to be held in confidence so her peers wont ridicule her further. She already is teased for her physical (she is 12 and looks like 21)...and they give her heck about 'stuffing' or being on birthcontrol (which she isnt)... should i go on with the 504 just to have something in place then work toward (proactively) an iep?????