Forums
New posts
Search forums
What's new
New posts
New profile posts
Latest activity
Internet Search
Members
Current visitors
New profile posts
Search profile posts
Log in
Register
What's new
Search
Search
Search titles only
By:
New posts
Search forums
Menu
Log in
Register
Install the app
Install
Forums
Parent Support Forums
General Parenting
OMG. Parents of pre-teen girls, I NEED ADVICE!
JavaScript is disabled. For a better experience, please enable JavaScript in your browser before proceeding.
You are using an out of date browser. It may not display this or other websites correctly.
You should upgrade or use an
alternative browser
.
Reply to thread
Message
<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 53586" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Thanks! This last post was VERY helpful. I can't relate to it because I never cared about fitting in, being popular, etc. I just wanted one best friend I could count on, so I never played the social games. I guess my daughter understands the rules.</p><p></p><p>Actually R. isn't a Queen Bee. If anyone is, my daughter can be at times. She says that at her lunch table, if she says, "I'm going to get another fork" the girls will jump up to get it for her. It puzzles and amuses her and she is a nice kid. She told me, "I never ASK them to, but they do it, so I let them." She really does seem well liked, but she doesn't have much self-confidence. </p><p></p><p>We also live in a tiny village, so there are only about thirty kids in all in the entire fifth grade. That makes it a little bit easier because they all know each other so well that things tend to blow over faster. However, there is also a flip side. If everyone decides to turn on a kid, there is little else to look for companionship as there aren't a lot of alternatives. </p><p></p><p>I'm trying to teach my daughter not to depend on others for her self-esteem, to hang with family a lot, and to spend "down" time away from the girls (and boys!) that she's friends with. She doesn't seem to go out of her way to cause drama for herself or grief for others. </p><p></p><p>I so appreciate others who are young and were involved in "girl games" giving me the scoop. I was a very "different" kind of child who hated cliques and rejected social norms (I wouldn't be caught dead as a cheerleader or at prom). I rebelled against my own peers! At the same time as not going to prom on purpose, I rejected any sort of drugs or sleeping around. I was weird...lol. So I don't understand the social games/rules. If you have any other tips for me to pass along to my very social daughter, please share. I so appreciate it! There is no way I'm going to be able to make her not care about popularity, so I have to learn about it.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 53586, member: 1550"] Thanks! This last post was VERY helpful. I can't relate to it because I never cared about fitting in, being popular, etc. I just wanted one best friend I could count on, so I never played the social games. I guess my daughter understands the rules. Actually R. isn't a Queen Bee. If anyone is, my daughter can be at times. She says that at her lunch table, if she says, "I'm going to get another fork" the girls will jump up to get it for her. It puzzles and amuses her and she is a nice kid. She told me, "I never ASK them to, but they do it, so I let them." She really does seem well liked, but she doesn't have much self-confidence. We also live in a tiny village, so there are only about thirty kids in all in the entire fifth grade. That makes it a little bit easier because they all know each other so well that things tend to blow over faster. However, there is also a flip side. If everyone decides to turn on a kid, there is little else to look for companionship as there aren't a lot of alternatives. I'm trying to teach my daughter not to depend on others for her self-esteem, to hang with family a lot, and to spend "down" time away from the girls (and boys!) that she's friends with. She doesn't seem to go out of her way to cause drama for herself or grief for others. I so appreciate others who are young and were involved in "girl games" giving me the scoop. I was a very "different" kind of child who hated cliques and rejected social norms (I wouldn't be caught dead as a cheerleader or at prom). I rebelled against my own peers! At the same time as not going to prom on purpose, I rejected any sort of drugs or sleeping around. I was weird...lol. So I don't understand the social games/rules. If you have any other tips for me to pass along to my very social daughter, please share. I so appreciate it! There is no way I'm going to be able to make her not care about popularity, so I have to learn about it. [/QUOTE]
Insert quotes…
Verification
Post reply
Forums
Parent Support Forums
General Parenting
OMG. Parents of pre-teen girls, I NEED ADVICE!
Top