OMG Prayers Needed!

Discussion in 'The Watercooler' started by Hound dog, Jul 16, 2013.

  1. Hound dog

    Hound dog Nana's are Beautiful

    Kayla's best friend's mother hung herself sunday evening. :(

    This is the home where Kayla did 99.9 percent of her "sleeping over at a friends"............keep in mind she spent a LOT of time there, more than home, prior to being grounded for her sudden attitude issues.

    Katie had given me the news via message. I did an immediate search for the obit because that name sounds familiar to me (has for a while).

    This same woman was just indicted with some pretty darn serious sexual misconduct charges with minors. OMG

    Kayla really liked the mom and her friend is having a really tough time right now........well, kayla is as well. But I am more worried about those charges and what my granddaughter may have witnessed or experienced in that home.

    I told Katie she needs to give her a few days or so and sit down and have a long talk with her. I hope to heaven above that she saw nothing or experienced nothing. Or if she did, she will be honest so she can get some help.

    So prayers please for this devastated family. The mother left behind 3 young children. And for kayla......that hopefully nothing happened.

    I have never wanted to knock the daylights out of Katie so bad in my life.........THIS is the type of thing I warned her about when it came to just letting kayla go stay at some friend when she doesn't know the parents at all. I'm sorry, talking to the mom on the phone for less than 5 mins is NOT knowing them well enough for your child to be sleeping over at their home all the time. Holy Moses!

    If I'd not searched for the obit, Katie would've never known what had gone on in that home. Heaven help me her lack of sense is going to drive me crazy at some point. ugh!
  2. DaisyFace

    DaisyFace Love me...Love me not

    How horrific! Sending prayers...
  3. recoveringenabler

    recoveringenabler Well-Known Member Staff Member

    OMG, I am so sorry. Sending prayers for that family, those children and your Kayla too.
  4. DammitJanet

    DammitJanet Well-Known Member Staff Member

    Oh gosh, what an awful thing! I can understand the woman hanging herself though with those charges. I sure wouldnt want to face going to prison with that as my charges. Shudder.

    I feel really bad for her kids but you are so right about Kayla needing to be talked to about this. Not knowing exactly what kind of misconduct occurred means it could be on anyone. People dont just perp on the opposite sex. My first abuse was at the hands of a female babysitter.
  5. AnnieO

    AnnieO Shooting from the Hip

    Holy schmoly! You have my prayers headed to Kayla and her friend. LOTS of them!
  6. DDD

    DDD Well-Known Member

    I'm so sorry, Hound. Do you really think Katie "gets" how to do crisis parenting? As you know she reminds me so much of GFGmom and even tho she is almost fifty there is no doubt that she still lacks the depth of thought needed in a crisis. Is it possible for you to spend a little one on one time with your granddaughter just to make sure that she has had the right opportunity to share her feelings?

    I promise prayers are on the way for all involved. Hugs, DDD
  7. donna723

    donna723 Well-Known Member

    OMG! How horrible! Many prayers for all involved. I'm afraid that I share DDD concerns about Katie's ability to handle this on her own. I hope too that you will also be able to have a talk with Kayla and give her a chance to open up to you.

    I have a question though. If this woman has all these charges of sexual misconduct with minors against her, what on earth was she doing out of jail and at home with her children and their friends? Unreal!
  8. HaoZi

    HaoZi CD Hall of Fame

    So sorry hon, prayers going out to those affected.
  9. DammitJanet

    DammitJanet Well-Known Member Staff Member

    Donna that is why I said something about not knowing what the charges were. It sounds awful but its one thing to mess around with little kids but people tend to look at things a bit different if its a grown woman with a teen boy, especially if he is 16 or 17. Same misconduct charges show but it can be different and no one knows it unless you have seen the actual papers.
  10. FlowerGarden

    FlowerGarden Active Member

    Just awful. sending hugs and prayers.
  11. Liahona

    Liahona Guest

    I'll pray. I hope if something did happen she opens up about it. Sometimes stuff like that takes a long time to come out.
  12. Dixies_fire

    Dixies_fire Member

    When it rains it pours. My prayers for your grand youngin and her friend's family.
  13. Hound dog

    Hound dog Nana's are Beautiful

    I will try to get some alone time with Kayla as my schedule permits. This is really rotten timing as far as my schedule goes. But I wanted to work with Kayla with some drawing techniques I think she's ready to learn so I could use that as an opportunity if I get the days off.

    No. I would never leave such crisis parenting up to Katie. It didn't occur to her to even TALK to Kayla at all to begin with. Nor does Kayla have that type of trust relationship with her mom.

    I'm hoping this was a teen boy, not that it makes it right but it might reduce the chances of it being younger children............but I have a bad feeling it wasn't regarding a teen boy. Our dept will usually just come out and say blah blah blah for teens. These charges were sealed to the public.....making me suspect younger victims. :(
  14. DDD

    DDD Well-Known Member

    I totally know that this sounds insensitive to the three children but I'm thinking of your family right now. Have those kids been placed in foster care? relocated with other relatives? I'm hoping there can be a simple good spin that will prevent your difficult child from deciding that Kayla needs to stay close and help them out. Sigh. DDD
  15. everywoman

    everywoman Active Member

    Prayers. Does Kayla journal? Often young girls will write about things they won't talk about.
  16. DammitJanet

    DammitJanet Well-Known Member Staff Member

    Lisa, I am hoping the same thing but like you said, not looking good. However, I couldnt find someone's case in the news either. Normally they post if they pull someone over a seat belt ticket!

    *But like I said before I have personal experience with a female assaulting a very young girl. I was either 3 or 4, I cant remember exactly which.
  17. Liahona

    Liahona Guest

    Was there a suicide note? Or could you ask the DA if Kayla is named as a victim? But even if she isn't named she could've been hurt. And she has had the attitude change lately. I'm so sorry for her.
  18. Hound dog

    Hound dog Nana's are Beautiful

    EW, yes, Kayla has been huge into journalism for years. I buy them for her. Very good idea.

    I have no clue as of yet if these children have been placed with family or foster care. I'm going to guess ATM they might be in foster care until perhaps a family member steps forward and volunteers to take on the responsibility. Where ever they are, Kayla's friend was able to call her and tell her the news and talk to her for quite a long while. Katie was hoping I'd transport to the funeral. But I don't see how that is going to be possible. Not sure it's a good idea for her to go to begin with...........Kayla wants to go to help her friend, not because of the mom.

    Nothing so far about a suicide note. I'll have to check on that. Might not be too hard to check on child placement or the note because in an odd quirk of fate the mom is a fb friend of mine........I forgot I did it when Kayla told me her best friends mom's name. Figured it might come in handy one day. sheesh Not for anything like this though. :(
  19. tiredmommy

    tiredmommy Site Moderator

    You can contact the DA's office directly and find out who was handling the case and if Kayla was in any danger. When Duckie's stage director was arrested and prosecuted for attempting to drug and molest a 13 year old, plus multiple child porn counts, I was able to speak directly with the assistant DA that was handling the court case.
  20. Hound dog

    Hound dog Nana's are Beautiful

    Thanks TM. I will do that tomorrow. I don't have time today.

    I swear only bad part about this night shift thing is it seems I get up (and I get up waaaaay earlier than most ppl I work with) and it's time to go to work again. lol