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Nana's are Beautiful
Yes. I really need to know.
I've known for years that K's now husband was many years older than her. Her Mom told me back when K was living here. Although she didn't exactly know how much older.
M, K's husband, is 11 yrs older than she is. Now, far be it from me to toss stones at her for that age difference. My husband is 16 yrs older than I am. The age difference isn't really what's bugging me. Not specifically. The only thing that sticks in my craw with their age difference is that K was 14 when they got together, M was 25.
My Mother would take the age difference and run with it...........
Now you all are going to have to be a bit patient if you keep reading.......cuz I'm not really sure where I'm going with this. Just not anyone I can talk to about it here, so I've got to get it out somewhere.
M seems to be a decent guy, depsite what K's bio Mom and others there tried to make me believe many years ago. I dunno, maybe he's done some growing up since then. Possible. But he seemed nice enough and eager to please when I met him here right before the kids took off to MO.
M is severely dyslexic. I don't think he very far in school, don't know if he went to hs. I do know he was in Special Education in school. I suspect other learning disabilities, but have no way to confirm. Let's just say he's very slow and immature for 40. K might have passed him by now. I suspect she has.
But he's a decent guy who rides a bike 2-4 miles everyday to work washing dishes to put food on the table for his family. Not once have they asked for penny. The kids love him, and he loves the kids.
Nothing wrong with being poor when you're doing the best you can do. And until something happens to indicate otherwise, I'd have to say that although I do think M is a difficult child in many ways.....I also think he's one heck of a guy.
That said.....I still worry. K's condition is terminal, no two ways about it. Again tonight she broached the subject, and made it clear that she wants the kids in our lives no matter what happens to her. And she said M agreed with her when they discussed it. That it is so very important for the grands to have someone else in their lives who love them other than their parents. And she was hospitalized once again recently. So I think it's been weighing heavily on her mind.
So as we mothers do.........Now, I'm back to worrying again. M in his own way reminds me a great deal of Travis. (I don't say this lightly) And while my son adores children, and his neices and nephews most especially, I wouldn't trust him to care for one for more than a few hours. Not because he'd intentionally do something........but well, because he's just not up for the job. Know what I mean?? And so then I wonder if M will be able to handle 3 little kids, 2 obviously special needs, without K there to guide him? And sadly, I know I'm not the only one worrying over it as K is too, she's told me a few times.
I know, I know. Breathe and detach. Not much I can do except be their support system as best I can. I guess the good thing is that M has agreed to the arrangement and the importance of it. He even asked me to add him as my friend on MySpace so he can contact me directly if necessary.
In the midst of all this I swear is all the bad junk K's bioMom and others back there told me all during the time she was here. I'm determined to ignore it and only judge him as the man he is. They were so wrong about so many things that caused so much heartache that I'm not going to let that happen again. But all that baloney creeps into my brain and it's hard to shake it at times. And it makes me feel like I've become my mother. ack!!
Lordy. *huge sigh* God may have a plan with this one, but I sure wish he'd let me in on it.
If you got this far, thanks for listening to me ramble. And honestly, I really do like M, although it probably didn't sound like it. lol
I've known for years that K's now husband was many years older than her. Her Mom told me back when K was living here. Although she didn't exactly know how much older.
M, K's husband, is 11 yrs older than she is. Now, far be it from me to toss stones at her for that age difference. My husband is 16 yrs older than I am. The age difference isn't really what's bugging me. Not specifically. The only thing that sticks in my craw with their age difference is that K was 14 when they got together, M was 25.
My Mother would take the age difference and run with it...........
Now you all are going to have to be a bit patient if you keep reading.......cuz I'm not really sure where I'm going with this. Just not anyone I can talk to about it here, so I've got to get it out somewhere.
M seems to be a decent guy, depsite what K's bio Mom and others there tried to make me believe many years ago. I dunno, maybe he's done some growing up since then. Possible. But he seemed nice enough and eager to please when I met him here right before the kids took off to MO.
M is severely dyslexic. I don't think he very far in school, don't know if he went to hs. I do know he was in Special Education in school. I suspect other learning disabilities, but have no way to confirm. Let's just say he's very slow and immature for 40. K might have passed him by now. I suspect she has.
But he's a decent guy who rides a bike 2-4 miles everyday to work washing dishes to put food on the table for his family. Not once have they asked for penny. The kids love him, and he loves the kids.
Nothing wrong with being poor when you're doing the best you can do. And until something happens to indicate otherwise, I'd have to say that although I do think M is a difficult child in many ways.....I also think he's one heck of a guy.
That said.....I still worry. K's condition is terminal, no two ways about it. Again tonight she broached the subject, and made it clear that she wants the kids in our lives no matter what happens to her. And she said M agreed with her when they discussed it. That it is so very important for the grands to have someone else in their lives who love them other than their parents. And she was hospitalized once again recently. So I think it's been weighing heavily on her mind.
So as we mothers do.........Now, I'm back to worrying again. M in his own way reminds me a great deal of Travis. (I don't say this lightly) And while my son adores children, and his neices and nephews most especially, I wouldn't trust him to care for one for more than a few hours. Not because he'd intentionally do something........but well, because he's just not up for the job. Know what I mean?? And so then I wonder if M will be able to handle 3 little kids, 2 obviously special needs, without K there to guide him? And sadly, I know I'm not the only one worrying over it as K is too, she's told me a few times.
I know, I know. Breathe and detach. Not much I can do except be their support system as best I can. I guess the good thing is that M has agreed to the arrangement and the importance of it. He even asked me to add him as my friend on MySpace so he can contact me directly if necessary.
In the midst of all this I swear is all the bad junk K's bioMom and others back there told me all during the time she was here. I'm determined to ignore it and only judge him as the man he is. They were so wrong about so many things that caused so much heartache that I'm not going to let that happen again. But all that baloney creeps into my brain and it's hard to shake it at times. And it makes me feel like I've become my mother. ack!!
Lordy. *huge sigh* God may have a plan with this one, but I sure wish he'd let me in on it.
If you got this far, thanks for listening to me ramble. And honestly, I really do like M, although it probably didn't sound like it. lol
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