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<blockquote data-quote="Scent of Cedar *" data-source="post: 630529" data-attributes="member: 17461"><p>I think "for some reason" tells alot, COM. If you are concerned enough about this to do it, take twenty minutes or so and review your relationship to this sister. When I did that with my sister, I began to see, so dimly at first, that there were some serious flaws in that relationship. I was always fixing, always understanding, always advising, always welcoming.</p><p></p><p>My sister's behaviors were forever "off", but I didn't let myself see it.</p><p></p><p>My husband saw it.</p><p></p><p>My children saw it.</p><p></p><p>I would not see it.</p><p></p><p>Cedar</p><p></p><p>Part of what we are doing here COM is telling ourselves the truth ~ not just about our kids, but about the way we are being treated in all our relationships. I think you posted something similar once about the changed values in your relationship to your S.O.</p><p></p><p>It is okay to look, COM.</p><p></p><p>I found that I'd known it, all along. But just as it was with my kids, I believed that if I behaved in the best way I knew, the seeds of that relationship I was nurturing would flourish.</p><p></p><p>There are some people who take every advantage, COM.</p><p></p><p>And whatever you offer, wherever you are vulnerable? That is an opportunity to take advantage. I don't know why this is so.</p><p></p><p>I only know that is what I see, now that I am looking.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Scent of Cedar *, post: 630529, member: 17461"] I think "for some reason" tells alot, COM. If you are concerned enough about this to do it, take twenty minutes or so and review your relationship to this sister. When I did that with my sister, I began to see, so dimly at first, that there were some serious flaws in that relationship. I was always fixing, always understanding, always advising, always welcoming. My sister's behaviors were forever "off", but I didn't let myself see it. My husband saw it. My children saw it. I would not see it. Cedar Part of what we are doing here COM is telling ourselves the truth ~ not just about our kids, but about the way we are being treated in all our relationships. I think you posted something similar once about the changed values in your relationship to your S.O. It is okay to look, COM. I found that I'd known it, all along. But just as it was with my kids, I believed that if I behaved in the best way I knew, the seeds of that relationship I was nurturing would flourish. There are some people who take every advantage, COM. And whatever you offer, wherever you are vulnerable? That is an opportunity to take advantage. I don't know why this is so. I only know that is what I see, now that I am looking. [/QUOTE]
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