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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 665468" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>My opinion? She shouldn't drive and you shouldn't cover her on your insurance, especially since she is going to jack up the price. </p><p></p><p>Adults who take drugs have no business being behind the wheel. This time she totaled somebody else's car. Next time she could kill somebody or herself. Under no conditions would I give her any transportation. She isn't making a real effort to work. If she wants to work, she will find a way to get her. Boyfriend can drive her or she can walk (get a close job) or take the bus. I see a lot of parents giving excuses why their children HAVE to drive, even though they know they are often inebriated and I feel it is dangerous and even possibly immoral (now this is just MY take on it, nobody else's). </p><p></p><p>When my daughter quit drugs, she got a job and walked to and from work. It was over a mile and she did it in all types of Chicago weather. She did not have access to a car, but she did get a job because shse wanted a job. Before she quit using drugs, my daughter had three horrible accidents. One was with our vehicle and she never drove our vehicles again nor did we pay for her insurance and she not only survived but thrived.</p><p></p><p>I really think a lot of times (not ALL the time, but often) adult children keep messing up because we parents want to help them and do too much so they have no incentive to get their act together. My own experience is that it worked better not to do the rescue. I think it hurts more times than helps. Of course, there are exceptions.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 665468, member: 1550"] My opinion? She shouldn't drive and you shouldn't cover her on your insurance, especially since she is going to jack up the price. Adults who take drugs have no business being behind the wheel. This time she totaled somebody else's car. Next time she could kill somebody or herself. Under no conditions would I give her any transportation. She isn't making a real effort to work. If she wants to work, she will find a way to get her. Boyfriend can drive her or she can walk (get a close job) or take the bus. I see a lot of parents giving excuses why their children HAVE to drive, even though they know they are often inebriated and I feel it is dangerous and even possibly immoral (now this is just MY take on it, nobody else's). When my daughter quit drugs, she got a job and walked to and from work. It was over a mile and she did it in all types of Chicago weather. She did not have access to a car, but she did get a job because shse wanted a job. Before she quit using drugs, my daughter had three horrible accidents. One was with our vehicle and she never drove our vehicles again nor did we pay for her insurance and she not only survived but thrived. I really think a lot of times (not ALL the time, but often) adult children keep messing up because we parents want to help them and do too much so they have no incentive to get their act together. My own experience is that it worked better not to do the rescue. I think it hurts more times than helps. Of course, there are exceptions. [/QUOTE]
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