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<blockquote data-quote="Albatross" data-source="post: 692692" data-attributes="member: 17720"><p>It was so tempting to respond to his dozen furious texts and the couple of derogatory comments he posted on FB last night. I drafted a response that made me feel better.</p><p></p><p>Then I tore it up and texted him that he needs to quit drinking, and until he does there is really no point in talking. He won't see his part in this until he clears his head.</p><p></p><p>Now I am just going to ignore his onslaught. It will stop eventually. It always does.</p><p></p><p>It would make no difference if I stopped "helping" him before I bought him the bus ticket, or now, or after I bought him another ticket to wherever he thinks his life will magically get better. He would still be homeless, penniless and alone.</p><p></p><p>It won't help to bring him back here, with all of his drinking buddies. Tried that, several times.</p><p></p><p>It won't help to hold out a carrot if he agrees to go to another detox or another rehab or a psychiatrist or counseling. It is very clear he isn't ready.</p><p></p><p>We are all at different points in our willingness to protect our difficult children from the consequences of their bad choices. I realized that my family has reached the point where there is NOTHING we can do that won't somehow be used by my son as a soft pillow so he can continue drinking. Not one single thing. And we're not going to give him any more pillows. He is going to have to face the consequences. That is probably the only chance he has.</p><p></p><p>He needs so much help and I don't know how he will get it. I appreciate your prayers and your support very much.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Albatross, post: 692692, member: 17720"] It was so tempting to respond to his dozen furious texts and the couple of derogatory comments he posted on FB last night. I drafted a response that made me feel better. Then I tore it up and texted him that he needs to quit drinking, and until he does there is really no point in talking. He won't see his part in this until he clears his head. Now I am just going to ignore his onslaught. It will stop eventually. It always does. It would make no difference if I stopped "helping" him before I bought him the bus ticket, or now, or after I bought him another ticket to wherever he thinks his life will magically get better. He would still be homeless, penniless and alone. It won't help to bring him back here, with all of his drinking buddies. Tried that, several times. It won't help to hold out a carrot if he agrees to go to another detox or another rehab or a psychiatrist or counseling. It is very clear he isn't ready. We are all at different points in our willingness to protect our difficult children from the consequences of their bad choices. I realized that my family has reached the point where there is NOTHING we can do that won't somehow be used by my son as a soft pillow so he can continue drinking. Not one single thing. And we're not going to give him any more pillows. He is going to have to face the consequences. That is probably the only chance he has. He needs so much help and I don't know how he will get it. I appreciate your prayers and your support very much. [/QUOTE]
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