I need help. I have a 20yr old ADHD son whom I have just discovered is smoking marajuana and drinking hard liquor. Under any other circumstance, this wouldn't bother me as much except for the fact that he is taking two different medications (vyvannse and welbutrin) for his condition. He failed miserably his first year at uni, and has started taking classes again. But my situation is somewhat complicated. I am a single mom who has raised 2 kids on my own. Dad bailed out once he remarried and moved to another city. After being estranged from his dad for almost 9yrs, my son decided to make contact with his dad. To date, they have a casual relationship in which they get together once in a while. He tried living with dad for a bit, but after 4 months, he got kicked out. He then moved back with me, but not before I laid the ground rules. I told him that if I ever discovered he did drugs other than the ones perscribed to him, he was going to have to move out. My son's priorities are his friends. He's made it quite clear in his actions that there's no room for family in his life. When he's home, he locks himself in his room, eats dinner after the rest of the family has eaten dinner, sleeps in so he doesn't have to spend time with family in the morning. Weekends come and go, and the only time I know he's around is when I look into the fridge and see food missing. He has made great efforts to block me out of his life, and our relationship has deteriorated significantly since he started seeing his dad. He's even admitted that they've had long discussions in which dad has spoken badly of me and my family. He used to visit his grandparents regularly, but now doesn't acknowledge their existence unless it's a special holiday. I have done nothing short of sacrificed my life for my son, taking him to ADHD specialists, getting the best counselling for him, and being there every step of the way during high school, advocating for his special learning needs. As we approach the end of the summer, he will be starting classes soon ( on a part time schedule). I'm tired, emotionally drained, and spend the better part of my waking day worrying about him and fighting back tears. Everyone in the family is telling me to kick him out of the house; and even though I set specific rules a while ago, I'm having a hard time coming to that decision. As a mother, I don't want to turn my back on him, as he is my son and I love him very much. But on the other hand, my health isn't good. In less than 6 months I had emergency surgery due to a cancer scare, and battled pneumonia which took me off work for another 3 weeks. Despite the sacrifices I have made for him, he just doesn't seem to get it. Please, if anyone is out there reading this, help me. Thank you.