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<blockquote data-quote="Tanya M" data-source="post: 730187" data-attributes="member: 18516"><p>I know how you feel. Letting go is not always easy but is necessary for our own survival. I think it's easy to get lost in our "hope", hoping they will do better, hoping they will make better choices, hoping they will get clean and sober, etc.... Of course we hope these things for our children but if we don't temper it with reality we will never get past it. I allow myself to hold onto 1% of hope for my son. I'm not giving up on him, I'm just not going to exert my precious energy worrying and wondering if and when all the things I "hope" for him will come to pass.</p><p>Our freedom from this craziness is within the acceptance. It's through accepting that our difficult adult children are going to live lives that make our skin crawl that we can truly let go of them. I will never like the life choices my son has made but I also know that people can change the course of their lives anytime they want to. Yes, 1% of hope is enough for me, this way I'm never disappointed by him and my mommy heart is protected. </p><p>Letting go means that we will no longer allow them to hold our emotions hostage or use our emotions against us. </p><p>Letting go means we take OUR lives back, we find our center of gravity again, we live for ourselves again, we laugh again, we find joy again. </p><p></p><p>Make sure to scroll all the way down to see both sayings.</p><p>((HUGS)) to you..........</p><p></p><p>[ATTACH=full]924[/ATTACH]</p><p>[ATTACH=full]923[/ATTACH]</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Tanya M, post: 730187, member: 18516"] I know how you feel. Letting go is not always easy but is necessary for our own survival. I think it's easy to get lost in our "hope", hoping they will do better, hoping they will make better choices, hoping they will get clean and sober, etc.... Of course we hope these things for our children but if we don't temper it with reality we will never get past it. I allow myself to hold onto 1% of hope for my son. I'm not giving up on him, I'm just not going to exert my precious energy worrying and wondering if and when all the things I "hope" for him will come to pass. Our freedom from this craziness is within the acceptance. It's through accepting that our difficult adult children are going to live lives that make our skin crawl that we can truly let go of them. I will never like the life choices my son has made but I also know that people can change the course of their lives anytime they want to. Yes, 1% of hope is enough for me, this way I'm never disappointed by him and my mommy heart is protected. Letting go means that we will no longer allow them to hold our emotions hostage or use our emotions against us. Letting go means we take OUR lives back, we find our center of gravity again, we live for ourselves again, we laugh again, we find joy again. Make sure to scroll all the way down to see both sayings. ((HUGS)) to you.......... [ATTACH=full]924[/ATTACH] [ATTACH=full]923[/ATTACH] [/QUOTE]
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