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One of us is nuts, is it him or me (or both).
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<blockquote data-quote="Ephchap" data-source="post: 13011" data-attributes="member: 27"><p>CA Mom,</p><p></p><p>I know I've mentioned it before, but I still think that talking on the phone every night or even every other night is a lot. Yes, I know you miss him - but he's not a young teen. He's almost an adult. He's there because of his actions, not yours. He needs to begin to work on things for himself and to look inward for the reason things are happening or not happening.</p><p></p><p>I think a weekly phone call to update on how he's doing and the following week visiting is more than enough contact - while he's there.</p><p></p><p>Whatever happened with him possibly being moved from the home he's in to a more psychiatric Residential Treatment Center (RTC)? I saw that post in General and responded that my feeling is that it might be a better fit and a better environment, but never saw an update on whether or not he was being moved. I wondered if he would receive more one on one therapy as well as group therapy in a more structured psychiatric Residential Treatment Center (RTC) environment. I know that was the environment my son thrived in. The 12 boys living together in one unit, being held accountable to one another, was instrumental in him having to step up and do the right thing. He could no longer blame everyone else, but had to look within himself to see what needed to change.</p><p></p><p>Sending hugs. I know it's so hard to see/hear your son hurting. Our natural instinct is to want to fix things. Sometimes, stepping back and letting them own the situation and making them step up to fix it is more helpful in fixing things.</p><p></p><p>Hugs,</p><p>Deb</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Ephchap, post: 13011, member: 27"] CA Mom, I know I've mentioned it before, but I still think that talking on the phone every night or even every other night is a lot. Yes, I know you miss him - but he's not a young teen. He's almost an adult. He's there because of his actions, not yours. He needs to begin to work on things for himself and to look inward for the reason things are happening or not happening. I think a weekly phone call to update on how he's doing and the following week visiting is more than enough contact - while he's there. Whatever happened with him possibly being moved from the home he's in to a more psychiatric Residential Treatment Center (RTC)? I saw that post in General and responded that my feeling is that it might be a better fit and a better environment, but never saw an update on whether or not he was being moved. I wondered if he would receive more one on one therapy as well as group therapy in a more structured psychiatric Residential Treatment Center (RTC) environment. I know that was the environment my son thrived in. The 12 boys living together in one unit, being held accountable to one another, was instrumental in him having to step up and do the right thing. He could no longer blame everyone else, but had to look within himself to see what needed to change. Sending hugs. I know it's so hard to see/hear your son hurting. Our natural instinct is to want to fix things. Sometimes, stepping back and letting them own the situation and making them step up to fix it is more helpful in fixing things. Hugs, Deb [/QUOTE]
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