Onto tweedle dee.....

Discussion in 'General Parenting' started by timer lady, Aug 10, 2009.

  1. timer lady

    timer lady Queen of Hearts

    I visited kt at Residential Treatment Center (RTC) this past Friday ~ she needed socks & underwear; started a bit of school shopping & picked her up a pair of jeans & shoes.

    She's earning money at the Residential Treatment Center (RTC) & spent all of it on new CDs. I told her she needed to put some of it aside for shirts or other school supplies ~ I would not be buying all of it this year. Mope.

    She's doing well & addressing physical/emotional boundaries & grief & loss. kt has asked mental health case manager to stay 6 months - "the last time I was here it was 9 months; maybe I'll need that".

    I'm not ready to look at discharge - she's too soon into the program. It will depend on help with funding.

    Saying all that, she's doing well. kt isn't being let off because she's charming & hides herself in books this time around. Staff is watching her closely & psychiatrist will be changing her medications due to the mania we've been seeing.

    I'll see her again this Friday though I'm not ready to take her off grounds. She's a runner ~ not willing to take that on.

  2. Shari

    Shari IsItFridayYet?

    Good for her in recognizing the need for help. Knowing she's there for a while will give you a chance to really focus on you, too.

    I'm glad you had a great day with Wm, too. What a great activity, good for him, and helpful for you, too!
  3. gcvmom

    gcvmom Here we go again!

    Okay, I admit I was waiting for this post (aka the other shoe to drop).

    Sounds like she's doing o.k. for now. I'm glad to hear that they are watching her more closely and are going to address the medication needs since obviously SOMETHING wasn't working before!

    I hope you get the funding to keep her there long enough to make some progress and achieve some degree of stability.

    And I hope the visit on Friday is a positive one for both of you. Short leashes are good! No need to giver her more rope... She's not ready for that.
  4. mstang67chic

    mstang67chic Going Green

    Not that I didn't think so before but it sounds like Kt is exactly where she needs to be. Also, maybe it's because I live with the king of denial and manipulation but I'm very impressed with her self-awareness! The only time my difficult child says things like that is when he's trying to get OUT of something.

    All in all, it sounds like a pretty good visit. The money/cd issues is pretty typical teen stuff and she's just going to have to deal! LOL

    How are things at home? I'm hoping the late night visitors have stopped.
  5. timer lady

    timer lady Queen of Hearts

    Yup, gcvmom, when I post about one tweedle there is an "ingrained" need to post about the other. I think it's because they are twins & have taught me well to be ridiculously fair. :D

    The money issue doesn't get to me as much as the sense of entitlement ~ typical in teens I know; extremely typical in Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) kids. Show me you love me.

    Our visit was very nice (wouldn't go so far as pleasant); she shared time with me, showed me the books she's reading & the new CDs she got that morning. kt cannot wait for school to start.

    my ktbug is in a different phase ~ not sure what it is but it's a tad annoying (forgive my sarcasm). Maybe it's an adoptive mother, bio mother, child thing.

    I'll keep you all posted on how she's doing.
  6. Wiped Out

    Wiped Out Well-Known Member Staff Member

    I'm glad to she realizes she needs to be there awhile.

    I know what you mean about the entitlement issues. I'm sure difficult child falls somewhere on the lighter end of the Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) spectrum (the Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) specialist we saw a few years back said he did fall on the spectrum). The show me you love me drives me crazy. Last week when husband wouldn't buy difficult child candy difficult child kicked husband in the shins. Started ranting that we don't love him because we never buy him things. I better stop or this post will turn into a long whine on my part.

    Hugs to you my friend.