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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 723344" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>Why on earth have you not already filed a police report and contested the charges on your debit card? You can get that money back from your bank if you do this!! Then it becomes HER problem and HER lesson! You didn't authorize her to use your card and spend your money. Doesn't matter what she spends it on. It wasn't hers!!! Give her one last gift. The gift of knowledge. The knowledge that if you steal from your parents, they will call the cops and the bank and have the charges reversed and have you charged. Just say yes to this! If nothing else, consider it your last parenting task!</p><p></p><p>If she has a place, a boyfriend and a bunch of animals, why is she needing to stay at your place? Why on earth would you say yes? You know better!! She is ONLY asking to steal from you. Stop that! Stop giving her the access to your stuff. You deserve better!</p><p></p><p>Why would you keep someone as a friend on FB who so clearly is not your friend? Friends don't steal from you or harass you. Just unfriend her or block her or whatever it is called to get her away from you. Do NOT tell her where you move to. Those people that you do tell your new address, tell them NOT to tell her the address. I know that seems mean, but in reality, your daughter is the mean one. She has stood up waving her arms over her head and jumped around to get your attention so she can BEG you to PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE move without her. Seriously, if you look at her behavior in a rational light, hasn't she? </p><p></p><p>Her friend wants money from you because your daughter owes this friend 5K. Gee, where did you guarantee this loan? Where did you promise this person that if she loaned your daughter money then you would pay it back? Tell them to show you the loan papers that you signed in front of a notary public guaranteeing that you would pay this money. If they don't have a signature that can be verified as yours, on official loan papers that were drawn up and signed in front of a notary, then they need to go and deal with this nonsense on their own. If this 5K debt ever happened, and I doubt it, then it is NOT your debt. Why would you listen to such nonsense? Why let it clutter up your day or your mind? It isn't your business or your problem if your daughter is promising people money. That is her business. If your daughter promised you would pay it back, more fool them if they believed her. YOU didn't promise, and why would they take her word that you would do anything? Why would they not ask you first? They just wasted 5K. They can sue your daughter, but they cannot sue you. Walk away from this issue.</p><p></p><p>Concentrate on your life. Keep your doors locked. Call the cops to get a report and then get your money back. If it causes a problem for your daughter, maybe it will be one more thing that helps her down the road toward getting her life together. Consequences happen to everyone. Life is a Choose Your Own Adventure sort of deal. So far you have been standing in the way of your daughter's consequences, and it does not help her. Get out of the path between your daughter and the legal consequences of her stealing. Report hte thefts to the authorities so that she can start to learn the error of her ways. It might eventually save her from the street justice type consequences which can be a whole lot more dire than some time in jail. Either way, someone at some time will teach her that stealing comes with really bad side effects.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 723344, member: 1233"] Why on earth have you not already filed a police report and contested the charges on your debit card? You can get that money back from your bank if you do this!! Then it becomes HER problem and HER lesson! You didn't authorize her to use your card and spend your money. Doesn't matter what she spends it on. It wasn't hers!!! Give her one last gift. The gift of knowledge. The knowledge that if you steal from your parents, they will call the cops and the bank and have the charges reversed and have you charged. Just say yes to this! If nothing else, consider it your last parenting task! If she has a place, a boyfriend and a bunch of animals, why is she needing to stay at your place? Why on earth would you say yes? You know better!! She is ONLY asking to steal from you. Stop that! Stop giving her the access to your stuff. You deserve better! Why would you keep someone as a friend on FB who so clearly is not your friend? Friends don't steal from you or harass you. Just unfriend her or block her or whatever it is called to get her away from you. Do NOT tell her where you move to. Those people that you do tell your new address, tell them NOT to tell her the address. I know that seems mean, but in reality, your daughter is the mean one. She has stood up waving her arms over her head and jumped around to get your attention so she can BEG you to PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE move without her. Seriously, if you look at her behavior in a rational light, hasn't she? Her friend wants money from you because your daughter owes this friend 5K. Gee, where did you guarantee this loan? Where did you promise this person that if she loaned your daughter money then you would pay it back? Tell them to show you the loan papers that you signed in front of a notary public guaranteeing that you would pay this money. If they don't have a signature that can be verified as yours, on official loan papers that were drawn up and signed in front of a notary, then they need to go and deal with this nonsense on their own. If this 5K debt ever happened, and I doubt it, then it is NOT your debt. Why would you listen to such nonsense? Why let it clutter up your day or your mind? It isn't your business or your problem if your daughter is promising people money. That is her business. If your daughter promised you would pay it back, more fool them if they believed her. YOU didn't promise, and why would they take her word that you would do anything? Why would they not ask you first? They just wasted 5K. They can sue your daughter, but they cannot sue you. Walk away from this issue. Concentrate on your life. Keep your doors locked. Call the cops to get a report and then get your money back. If it causes a problem for your daughter, maybe it will be one more thing that helps her down the road toward getting her life together. Consequences happen to everyone. Life is a Choose Your Own Adventure sort of deal. So far you have been standing in the way of your daughter's consequences, and it does not help her. Get out of the path between your daughter and the legal consequences of her stealing. Report hte thefts to the authorities so that she can start to learn the error of her ways. It might eventually save her from the street justice type consequences which can be a whole lot more dire than some time in jail. Either way, someone at some time will teach her that stealing comes with really bad side effects. [/QUOTE]
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