Forums
New posts
Search forums
What's new
New posts
New profile posts
Latest activity
Internet Search
Members
Current visitors
New profile posts
Search profile posts
Log in
Register
What's new
Search
Search
Search titles only
By:
New posts
Search forums
Menu
Log in
Register
Install the app
Install
Forums
Parent Support Forums
General Parenting
Opinions on home schooling difficult child because he does not get along with others
JavaScript is disabled. For a better experience, please enable JavaScript in your browser before proceeding.
You are using an out of date browser. It may not display this or other websites correctly.
You should upgrade or use an
alternative browser
.
Reply to thread
Message
<blockquote data-quote="PlainJane" data-source="post: 634564" data-attributes="member: 11700"><p>Thank you both. I should have said that my son does have and IEP though we had to fight to keep it in place for this year because he does not exhibit any academic need. We did seek an advocate through POAC, which might only be in our state, and we kept the IEP in place for this year with social goals.</p><p></p><p>But none of this matters when he is on he bus or playground. None of this (IEP) can force other kids to talk to him or not get nasty with him when he annoys them. There are several areas of "uncontrolled" environment in school, where teachers are not watching. And this stuff happens.</p><p></p><p>My son can definitely be manipulative.</p><p></p><p>He can be very cruel intentionally if he is looking for revenge. He's not the kind of kid to just punch someone. He is the kind of kid to make up a believable story about someone to get them in trouble. We do have to be careful whenever he complains for being bullied, because he often leaves out anything he did, but I can say, when the truth comes out, as it has in several incidents last year, difficult child did not start it (or at least didn't realize he did/ was being rude without knowing) but once the other kid started bullying him, he would do various things back to them like poke them, throw something at them...but leave this stuff out when telling us.</p><p></p><p>The issue that escalated to some kid hitting him today, I suspect that we will discover that my son helped to escalate it but did not "start" it. He is not mean first. He's not that kind of cruel that he starts trouble for fun. But he can be malicious when he thinks someone starts with him, but he seems to be missing the part that he said socially inappropriate things that upset the other person.</p><p></p><p>I don't know whats going on with my son and I'm his mom. Its such a helpless feeling. Some days I'm like "omg that's so aspie. He's aspie" and some days I'm like "that's so NOT aspie, that's very socially manipulative and something else"...I think the dr is a bit confused too.</p><p></p><p>I agree on him not getting the proper education at home especially since I am not a teacher by trade. But I just cant sit by and send him off to school knowing year ofter year of this leads to depression, isolation...these teens that try to commit suicide...how many of them are bullied and unhappy at school? He is so young and I cant watch him be destroyed year after year...imagine how all this kids would feel if they never had to go to school and be made to feel worthless? Some of them would still be alive...its a form of abuse if a student is bullied. I don't want him to go through that.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="PlainJane, post: 634564, member: 11700"] Thank you both. I should have said that my son does have and IEP though we had to fight to keep it in place for this year because he does not exhibit any academic need. We did seek an advocate through POAC, which might only be in our state, and we kept the IEP in place for this year with social goals. But none of this matters when he is on he bus or playground. None of this (IEP) can force other kids to talk to him or not get nasty with him when he annoys them. There are several areas of "uncontrolled" environment in school, where teachers are not watching. And this stuff happens. My son can definitely be manipulative. He can be very cruel intentionally if he is looking for revenge. He's not the kind of kid to just punch someone. He is the kind of kid to make up a believable story about someone to get them in trouble. We do have to be careful whenever he complains for being bullied, because he often leaves out anything he did, but I can say, when the truth comes out, as it has in several incidents last year, difficult child did not start it (or at least didn't realize he did/ was being rude without knowing) but once the other kid started bullying him, he would do various things back to them like poke them, throw something at them...but leave this stuff out when telling us. The issue that escalated to some kid hitting him today, I suspect that we will discover that my son helped to escalate it but did not "start" it. He is not mean first. He's not that kind of cruel that he starts trouble for fun. But he can be malicious when he thinks someone starts with him, but he seems to be missing the part that he said socially inappropriate things that upset the other person. I don't know whats going on with my son and I'm his mom. Its such a helpless feeling. Some days I'm like "omg that's so aspie. He's aspie" and some days I'm like "that's so NOT aspie, that's very socially manipulative and something else"...I think the dr is a bit confused too. I agree on him not getting the proper education at home especially since I am not a teacher by trade. But I just cant sit by and send him off to school knowing year ofter year of this leads to depression, isolation...these teens that try to commit suicide...how many of them are bullied and unhappy at school? He is so young and I cant watch him be destroyed year after year...imagine how all this kids would feel if they never had to go to school and be made to feel worthless? Some of them would still be alive...its a form of abuse if a student is bullied. I don't want him to go through that. [/QUOTE]
Insert quotes…
Verification
Post reply
Forums
Parent Support Forums
General Parenting
Opinions on home schooling difficult child because he does not get along with others
Top