I came home from work tonight to find husband fishing at our pond with his nephew and nephews friend. *** This is the nephew that got drunk at a wedding reception, hit a car, and gave the car owner easy child 1s name instead of his own. He was later caught and cornered and fessed up, but that could have turned out BAD (easy child 1 relies on his CDL for his job), and nephew has not so much as apologized to easy child 1 or us (whom easy child called before calling nephews mom, trying to get help getting him away from the reception). *** This is the same nephew whos really only had it together for the past 3 or 4 months or so prior to that he was a dropout, a pot head, he broke into our house when he skipped high school to smoke pot, etc. For the past few months, hes had a steady job and appears to be clean but *** I guess I have a problem with nephew hanging around after this. easy child 1 still lives here, and while hes an annoying teenager that borrows our cr@p and usually doesnt put it away and does a shabby job picking up after himself in the shed outside, well, hes pretty darn normal for a young adult. Hes got a good job, pays his own bills, contributes to the groceries, helps mow the yard, etc. He plans to move out on his own in a year or so, but we just havent been in a hurry to boot him out its just working. *** Anyway, back to this deal nephew is the grandson of the mother in law from he!!. You all already know how used I feel from that woman well, I come home tonight and heres husband and nephew, happily fishing, and my first thought is WTF? HE can use and abuse, too?!!??!? *** I talked to husband. His initial reaction was that the rift between easy child 1 and nephew does not involve him. Hes got a point. But this is still where easy child lives, and I already feel used by the rest of his family, and Im tired of it. *** So Im posing the question to you guys what nephew did to easy child isnt really my business, but am I out of line in saying that until nephew at least apologizes to easy child AND me (I was at a party, kid free, when I got a phone call to try to help easy child deal with this ), I dont want him around.