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<blockquote data-quote="LittleDudesMom" data-source="post: 32168" data-attributes="member: 805"><p>Barbara,</p><p></p><p>the absolute first thing I would have you do is to complete a profile signature. It's really hard for us to remember all the back stories with members when we don't have that family snapshot at the bottom of your post. And, I'm sorry that I don't remember how old your difficult child is but I do have a few thoughts.</p><p></p><p>First, if his iep says homework is not to be counted against him, then don't do it. It's not worth the battle and stress in your home. Can you proove that they don't count it against him? Can you ask to see how they arrive at nine-week grades (grade book)? In regards to the aide - is this someone you fought for in his IEP or someone the school said he has to have? Is this a school employee or a contract employee? The bottom line - if this personis causing triggers and you both don't like her, it is totally acceptable for you to request another one (not saying you will get one because I don't know the system you are working within).</p><p></p><p>I would absolutely call an IEP meeting.</p><p></p><p>Another question, in regards to the aide, the nurse, the DYFUS = have you documented your son's behavior all along like keeping a diary or updating a parent's report? Documenting his violence towards you, husband and siblings, recording how his reacts at homework time, etc., is a good idea. </p><p></p><p>It may also be time for the family to attend a couple therapy sessions together. The violence seems pretty high at home - I don't mean abuse - but the throwing of objects at each other and dad spanking difficult child. I'm not saying the all of this it wrong all the time. But throwing stuff back to difficult child is tit for tat stuff and should be beyond an adult who is not at their wits end. In regards to the spanking, I'm not antispanking but spanking a kid who has serious acting out issues is rarely effective and usually counter productive. Perhaps you all husband would find help detaching from the behaviors and difficult child can be taught some anger management stuff. My difficult child benefiting from some calming techniques taught to him by his therapist.</p><p></p><p>I think I would send a certified letter to school tomorrow requesting an IEP meeting.</p><p></p><p>Good luck Barbara, I hope todays is a better calm day.</p><p></p><p>Sharon</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="LittleDudesMom, post: 32168, member: 805"] Barbara, the absolute first thing I would have you do is to complete a profile signature. It's really hard for us to remember all the back stories with members when we don't have that family snapshot at the bottom of your post. And, I'm sorry that I don't remember how old your difficult child is but I do have a few thoughts. First, if his iep says homework is not to be counted against him, then don't do it. It's not worth the battle and stress in your home. Can you proove that they don't count it against him? Can you ask to see how they arrive at nine-week grades (grade book)? In regards to the aide - is this someone you fought for in his IEP or someone the school said he has to have? Is this a school employee or a contract employee? The bottom line - if this personis causing triggers and you both don't like her, it is totally acceptable for you to request another one (not saying you will get one because I don't know the system you are working within). I would absolutely call an IEP meeting. Another question, in regards to the aide, the nurse, the DYFUS = have you documented your son's behavior all along like keeping a diary or updating a parent's report? Documenting his violence towards you, husband and siblings, recording how his reacts at homework time, etc., is a good idea. It may also be time for the family to attend a couple therapy sessions together. The violence seems pretty high at home - I don't mean abuse - but the throwing of objects at each other and dad spanking difficult child. I'm not saying the all of this it wrong all the time. But throwing stuff back to difficult child is tit for tat stuff and should be beyond an adult who is not at their wits end. In regards to the spanking, I'm not antispanking but spanking a kid who has serious acting out issues is rarely effective and usually counter productive. Perhaps you all husband would find help detaching from the behaviors and difficult child can be taught some anger management stuff. My difficult child benefiting from some calming techniques taught to him by his therapist. I think I would send a certified letter to school tomorrow requesting an IEP meeting. Good luck Barbara, I hope todays is a better calm day. Sharon [/QUOTE]
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