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<blockquote data-quote="hearthope" data-source="post: 35827" data-attributes="member: 2389"><p>Thank you all!</p><p></p><p>I knew I needed to post about it. Without getting info from you all, I can go to this strange place of denial and make myself believe I am over-reacting.</p><p></p><p>I am not trying to rescue him any longer.</p><p></p><p>I can't really put into words what place I am at now, but I firmly believe that I have to let him make his own choices now.</p><p></p><p>When he will listen, I do tell him what I think and try to remind him of the big picture.</p><p></p><p>I don't know if I am enabling him. I am looking at it from the point that if he screws up now, he is just going to be out of our home. If he was out and had his name on a lease somewhere and other bills he was responsible for and screwed up he would mess up his credit.</p><p></p><p>I am not sure if that goes under enabling or not. I guess you could say I am allowing him to not be responsible because all he has to pay now is his fine to the court. </p><p></p><p>I have given him the chance to save for transportation and he has saved some. My parents made a deal with him about the money towards a truck and he has done what they asked so he now has more money to put with his savings and get the truck.</p><p>He is responsible for insurance and tag. We took him off our insurance when he flipped our car.</p><p></p><p>Thank you all for being here and letting me work this out. I value all of your opinions</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="hearthope, post: 35827, member: 2389"] Thank you all! I knew I needed to post about it. Without getting info from you all, I can go to this strange place of denial and make myself believe I am over-reacting. I am not trying to rescue him any longer. I can't really put into words what place I am at now, but I firmly believe that I have to let him make his own choices now. When he will listen, I do tell him what I think and try to remind him of the big picture. I don't know if I am enabling him. I am looking at it from the point that if he screws up now, he is just going to be out of our home. If he was out and had his name on a lease somewhere and other bills he was responsible for and screwed up he would mess up his credit. I am not sure if that goes under enabling or not. I guess you could say I am allowing him to not be responsible because all he has to pay now is his fine to the court. I have given him the chance to save for transportation and he has saved some. My parents made a deal with him about the money towards a truck and he has done what they asked so he now has more money to put with his savings and get the truck. He is responsible for insurance and tag. We took him off our insurance when he flipped our car. Thank you all for being here and letting me work this out. I value all of your opinions [/QUOTE]
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