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<blockquote data-quote="ScentofCedar" data-source="post: 35995" data-attributes="member: 3353"><p>I just saw this, hearthope.</p><p></p><p>I am so cynical lately I hate to respond, sometimes. If this sounds heartless, just take it with a grain of salt, okay?</p><p></p><p>I agree with everyone else. Listen to your intuition. The thing is, there is nothing you HAVE to do right now. </p><p></p><p>You might want to think about the niche your son is sticking you back into, here. </p><p></p><p>Don't let him do that.</p><p></p><p>Find an oportunity to talk about how relieved you are that things are better for him. Let him think you are going on with your own life, your own happiness, and easy child's happiness. Make sure the rules are very clear. You can post anything you want to on the fridge and he can ask you about it or not. </p><p></p><p>Review your plans for how you will handle things if everything changes.</p><p></p><p>I think it is true that the kids will twist everything around to make it look like it was pressure from us that justified whatever it is they did.</p><p></p><p>Don't give him that pleasure.</p><p></p><p>There is no solid ground, no simple answer ~ not that I have ever found, anyway.</p><p></p><p>Whatever is coming next, it will feel less chaotic now that you have the site.</p><p></p><p>If difficult child is on the up and up (and he could be) there is nothing wrong with you for wondering about him, or for hoping it isn't all starting again.</p><p></p><p>I am glad you posted about it too, hearthope.</p><p></p><p>My difficult child?</p><p></p><p>Hates this site.</p><p></p><p>Barbara</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="ScentofCedar, post: 35995, member: 3353"] I just saw this, hearthope. I am so cynical lately I hate to respond, sometimes. If this sounds heartless, just take it with a grain of salt, okay? I agree with everyone else. Listen to your intuition. The thing is, there is nothing you HAVE to do right now. You might want to think about the niche your son is sticking you back into, here. Don't let him do that. Find an oportunity to talk about how relieved you are that things are better for him. Let him think you are going on with your own life, your own happiness, and easy child's happiness. Make sure the rules are very clear. You can post anything you want to on the fridge and he can ask you about it or not. Review your plans for how you will handle things if everything changes. I think it is true that the kids will twist everything around to make it look like it was pressure from us that justified whatever it is they did. Don't give him that pleasure. There is no solid ground, no simple answer ~ not that I have ever found, anyway. Whatever is coming next, it will feel less chaotic now that you have the site. If difficult child is on the up and up (and he could be) there is nothing wrong with you for wondering about him, or for hoping it isn't all starting again. I am glad you posted about it too, hearthope. My difficult child? Hates this site. Barbara [/QUOTE]
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