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<blockquote data-quote="Dot" data-source="post: 728596" data-attributes="member: 22823"><p>Hi, thanks for this. Our circumstances are so tricky. First off we live in south of Spain and we are English. He was in private school and they’ve just washed their hands of him. We are preparing to move to LA as we are starting a business and that’s the reason we didn’t just change schools. We thought the move would happen sooner but it’s been delayed and delayed and we limp on month by month. My sons already angry at being moved from his friends so I didn’t want to put him into a new school for just a term and have him just settle in then move to LA. </p><p>My son is having a tutor for a couple of hours a day which is expensive but as you can probably gather, there’s no way I can teach him. </p><p>The reason I’ve not had him formally assessed is because we live in Spain and I do not like their attitude to these disorders here. We tried him a few years back and the terrible psychiatrist just gave him concerta without even a medical or getting in touch with the school. I chose to stop the concerta after a month - I’m really quite against drugging kids, especially ones who show such addictive personalities like mine. </p><p>So now, my husband is away working a lot and my son is becoming so abusive towards me that we’ve now got to keep travelling with him so I’m not here alone with him, including keep going back and forth to LA. I’m just exhausted and drained and I feel like I’m coming unglued. I’m also just menopausal and have just started taking hrt to try help. </p><p>I just don’t know how to fix my relationship with my son and I’m worried about his mental health, his desire to take drugs and his abusive attitude towards me, his mum, who’s always been so loving and supportive of him. What an awful time this is. </p><p>Are we right to be so strick with him? To keep him in and away from influences, to not allow him a mobile phone? I just don’t know what the right thing is</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Dot, post: 728596, member: 22823"] Hi, thanks for this. Our circumstances are so tricky. First off we live in south of Spain and we are English. He was in private school and they’ve just washed their hands of him. We are preparing to move to LA as we are starting a business and that’s the reason we didn’t just change schools. We thought the move would happen sooner but it’s been delayed and delayed and we limp on month by month. My sons already angry at being moved from his friends so I didn’t want to put him into a new school for just a term and have him just settle in then move to LA. My son is having a tutor for a couple of hours a day which is expensive but as you can probably gather, there’s no way I can teach him. The reason I’ve not had him formally assessed is because we live in Spain and I do not like their attitude to these disorders here. We tried him a few years back and the terrible psychiatrist just gave him concerta without even a medical or getting in touch with the school. I chose to stop the concerta after a month - I’m really quite against drugging kids, especially ones who show such addictive personalities like mine. So now, my husband is away working a lot and my son is becoming so abusive towards me that we’ve now got to keep travelling with him so I’m not here alone with him, including keep going back and forth to LA. I’m just exhausted and drained and I feel like I’m coming unglued. I’m also just menopausal and have just started taking hrt to try help. I just don’t know how to fix my relationship with my son and I’m worried about his mental health, his desire to take drugs and his abusive attitude towards me, his mum, who’s always been so loving and supportive of him. What an awful time this is. Are we right to be so strick with him? To keep him in and away from influences, to not allow him a mobile phone? I just don’t know what the right thing is [/QUOTE]
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