we have two children a son and a daughter. Our son was easy from day one but our daughter was always challenged us. She was closer to her father growing up but mine and her relationship was always rocky. Her relationship with her father changed when she was in her late teens. He could pinpoint the time when it changed and it was at the time he overheard an argument between myself and her. It was the first time he took my side and really yelled at her. This was when it changed. She got stuck and things were never the same between them..Then she met her would be husband who grew up in a dysfunctional home to the extreme until his parents divorced. The result he never felt any respect whatsoever for his parents, us as our daughters parents or any adults for that matter. He took an immediate dislike for my husband so if you put this and our daughters feelings towards her father in the mix , the outcome was not present. Our daughters home life was normal, normal family issues, normal happy family times. There were occasional disagreements amongst adults but nothing serious enough to cause family rifts. To this day we enjoy huge family gatherings. Our daughter looked at these small disagreements and of course blamed everything on her father to this day, she got stuck. No matter what he's ever said or did wrong , she blamed him. She could never get past this and with her husbands influence my husband didn't stand a chance. We carried on with our lives with this monkey on our backs. My husband periodically would try and giver her a hug or a kiss but she would brush him aside. He is not one to show affection easily and this continuing rejection was hard on him. He loved her deeply. We woukd vist her frequently but her father always felt he was invisible, no matter how hard he tried nothing ever changed. These visits were not pleas t for him but he did it for my sake and our on,y grand child's sake. After leaving he woukd always say what is going on? I woukd always make excuses. I was the family peacemaker. My husband is a quiet man, who is socially awkward a d sometimes say things that in his mind was funny but wasn't funny to them. It came to a head on our grandchilds birthday, we we're closing around and he said something that our daughter and her husband found offensive but we didn't know that until days later. We received a Nasty text from our daughter calling her father some nasty names but we were told that her father was not allowed anywhere near them or our grandchild Until he received some therapy and a three month exclusion from their lives. He immediately wanted to go to their home and talk things out, this offered was made three different times. They woukd not relent. That happened last year and. Things hasn't improved for him. I ended up getting couciling, my husband was so hurt it eventually landed him in emergency twice thinking he was having a heart attack. It eventually took a tole on my health. There were many arguments throughout the year between myself and our daughter and because of this my husband remained silent. Extremely hurt but silent. He didn't want any part of The fighting. She made it clear that she wanted a relationship with me only and maybe work on hers and her fathers relationship later. Maybe. She gave me a choice. Her, her son or her father. I chose her father. I would not add to his suffering k nowing he wanted to fix this and she didn't. How could I leave him behind and go off with my daughter knowing full well this was driving the knife in even further. I made that terrible decision , which she didn't like. We eventually got access to our grandchild but it was not without threats of legal action. The other grandmother and uncle also has no contact with this child. My daughter and her husband were taken to court to exercise grandparents visitations but unfortunately in our province grandparents do not have legal rights so the other grandmother and her son lost. Because we has an ongoing relationship with our grandchild , this was a different matter. If we took it to court our outcome woukd be different which our daughter knows so she allowed our visitations to go on uninterupted. There were many games but we got past it. We are now on somewhat steady grounds but she reuses to have anything to do with her father. She acknowledged my birthday but ignored his. I seen him on his BurthdY checking his emails, texts and phone messages Nothing. He was happy I heard from her in my birthday but I knew his omission. Was very painful.ny husband doesn't know but I texted my daughter , told her until she can treat us the same with regards to acknowledging special occasions just don't acknowledge mine. She took this as I'm trying to control her but it wasn't . I just want to spare him more pain which I told her. I don't think she believe but that's her issue. Is there any hope for this small family?