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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 686469" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Your 43 (well into middle age) daughter needs to get over this or she needs to go it without a father OR mother. At her age, daughters are starting to look out for their aging parents, not fighting childhood hurts with both, and this DOES involve you both. That is not maturity. She is WAY old and, yes, mean to play mommy against daddy. Is she emotionally six? I wouldn't give into her cruel demand.</p><p></p><p>Go with your husband, my friend, and dont let him listen to old old stuff that may be lies and will destroy his golden years. Nothing is worth this hurt. Really. Its like she wants to break you apart.</p><p></p><p>I hope you both get therapy to learn to cope with this (you can) and enjoy the rest of your lives, guilt free. Nobody can deal with constant garbage from an adult child who is old enough to know the damage she is causing. No excuse at her age except that she is bitter and mean over who knows what and you cant fix her. SHE may not even know her deal. It doesnt matter. Its divisive and hurtful.</p><p></p><p>Detach, detach, detach. She is making you ill. Dont allow it. Dont listen. Take a nice vacation. Move far away. You cant change her, but you can jump into a marvelous second honeymoon with each other and you must have loved ones and friends who can and will be positives in your lives.</p><p></p><p>You did nothing wrong. Enjoy your life with those who care for you. We on this forum care about you. You need to let the game go. Hugs!!!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 686469, member: 1550"] Your 43 (well into middle age) daughter needs to get over this or she needs to go it without a father OR mother. At her age, daughters are starting to look out for their aging parents, not fighting childhood hurts with both, and this DOES involve you both. That is not maturity. She is WAY old and, yes, mean to play mommy against daddy. Is she emotionally six? I wouldn't give into her cruel demand. Go with your husband, my friend, and dont let him listen to old old stuff that may be lies and will destroy his golden years. Nothing is worth this hurt. Really. Its like she wants to break you apart. I hope you both get therapy to learn to cope with this (you can) and enjoy the rest of your lives, guilt free. Nobody can deal with constant garbage from an adult child who is old enough to know the damage she is causing. No excuse at her age except that she is bitter and mean over who knows what and you cant fix her. SHE may not even know her deal. It doesnt matter. Its divisive and hurtful. Detach, detach, detach. She is making you ill. Dont allow it. Dont listen. Take a nice vacation. Move far away. You cant change her, but you can jump into a marvelous second honeymoon with each other and you must have loved ones and friends who can and will be positives in your lives. You did nothing wrong. Enjoy your life with those who care for you. We on this forum care about you. You need to let the game go. Hugs!!! [/QUOTE]
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