Thank you all ~ it's been a trying week or I'd have been back sooner.
My eyes are wide open as are ktbug's. She's regressed a bit (some dissociative states) yet not to the extent as in the past. kt & I are working on family therapy to deal with wm; the sadness, the anger, dashed hopes, & kt doing her best not to let wm into her life just because he's her brother.
kt told me that if wm weren't her brother she wouldn't even want to hang out with him. However, during therapy she kept making excuses for wm ~ it's okay for her to be abused by him because he's the only "blood relative" she has left. It's going to be a hard sale to get her to let go of that thought process.
In the end, I made a poor decision. I was selfish in that I wanted my family together for a holiday. I planned yet in the end all the planning in the world couldn't stop my son's choices.
Life moves on.....