From early childhood our son has lied and been very manipulative. Sadly, I probably enabled him by believing all his accustions against teachers and friends. As time went on, we discovered by the age of 14 he was stealing everything we owned, but by the time we realized it, most of our valuables were gone. He could not handle school. Teacher and principal called us everyday and complained. We took him to our pediatrician and he put him on Ritalin, which only made him worse. I would beg for help and through elementary, the teachers would only stay he was probably just spoiled. By the time he got to middle school, they put him in alternative school, which was a disaster. His psychiatrist put him on Seroquel, which didn't help his extreme anxiety and obsessive thoughts. He is not violent, which is good, but gets very angry if you cross him about anything. He lies like it is the truth and looks very young and sweet, so he gets by with alot, even with authority figures. He turned to pills because it helped his anxiety. He is now in Jail for trying to sell some of his Klonopins (anxiety drugs) and for a burglary where a minor let him into his home and gave him some stuff. Of course, that was his fault. He is so childlike and can't understand why he gets into trouble. Always has an excuse and blames other people. He is begging us to get him out. Visitation is a nightmare because he cries and tells us all kinds of horror stories. We have been through so much that it puts strain on our marriage. My husband is determined to leave him in there-he is fed up and thinks it will teach him a badly needed lesson about what jail is like. Of course, he makes all the same promises-he will change-but talking to him last night, he was cussing me and saying we were bad parents for leaving him in there. I know his anxiety is killing him. From experience, I know he is probably lying again and will be the same when he gets out. We have somewhat been enjoying the peace of him not being here. We can breathe and not worry. But when I visit or talk to him, it send me into a panic attack. The Dr. has me on Xanax and an antidepressant. Please, someone, tell me that we are doing the right thing by leaving him in there. I feel so guilty,but my husband thinks we could be saving his life. Sorry so long. I didn't even put everything in here that we and he has been through.