I am a 49 year old male who is retired Army. My son is 19 and failing at life. I gave up my army career to stay in contact with him and his brother, spent over $30,000 on airplane tickets over the years and fought an expensive international custody battle to have them join me at age 16 which was there wish. He is an intelligent individual who keeps going downhill fast. Last year he had a underage drinking charge and this Summer had a DUI and lost his license for a year. I have been paying for college tuition, food and driving him to a weekend job with no gratitude expressed by him. He received $10,000 from his mother for school and has blown it all in 11 months. I co-signed for an apartment for him and will most likely be stuck with paying the rent for six months. He is going to Ireland to visit his mother for a month and I need the time away from him. This morning he cursed me several times and it ended up getting physical. I am at a loss at what to do with this son. I started as a 17 year old private and he is wasting all the hard work I put in to give him a leg up in life.