PLEASE HELP! Sounds harsh...We want her out. We started seeing my husband's daughter about 5 months ago after 6 years of not seeing her due to the mother (court agrees) and she moved in with us 3 months ago. Child services asked us to take her due to the mother being abusive, and neglectful. We thought that some therapy would do the trick. However, she has made our life a living hell. In addition, our insurance is about at it's max and we can't afford much needed inpatient care. A little about her...she will be 16 next week. She likes to burn things with fire in her room(books, toilet paper, pencils etc.), unwiring smoke detector, physically abused my husband and myself last week, lies, sneaks boys into the house to have sex, disappears after school without permission, smokes pot sometimes, angry most of the time, degrades her sister, sister afraid of her and of her hurting our family, cuts herself and carves words into herself, she stated she doesn't want to be here because we "smother her with love", went camping and she named the caterpillars and then proceeded to throw them in the fire and watch them burn. The day she was abusive we dialed 211 and then 911. She was transported to a inpatient facility. They've had her since last Friday and are wanting to send her home this Monday. She told them that she "will continue doing it" because she doesn't want to be here. This is endangering our children and our home. How can child services allow this child back into our home? Is the risk of three children worth one staying with the parents? My children as well as ourselves our afraid of what she will do. She is so angry, but at the wrong people. Will this anger make her more dangerous? She needs 24 hour care that we can't provide. The hospital inpatient care is not willing to send her to inpatient long term care. We don't want her coming home? She's a danger to herself and our family. However, she has managed to have an epiphany and wants to do the right thing. She's was in outpatient therapy for 12 weeks and therapy once a week for the past few weeks and she only got worse. Please help us with any advice. Our next step is to refuse to take her and let the child services take her. My concern is... I don't want anything happening to our other children. They were happy until she started showing all these issues. I Hope I posted this correctly, but this is one of our last resorts before we have to pay for a lawyer.