I just found this forum on a search and am so desperate for help, or just people to listen. I have two teens, 16 year old girl and 15 year old boy. My biggest issue today is my daughter. She is a junior in high school with a full ride on the line for a sport. She works so hard and does so well, but smartphones have destroyed her focus. Yesterday I had to shut off her service because of at least two classes that have failing grades currently and, as has happened in the past, her reaction is violent. Big hole in a wall, poured a water bottle over my husbands head, threw a brush, another water bottle and her phone at me. When she did, I actually was able to get it and sneak it out and hide it, which made things worse. We ended up having the police over because she would not stop. I have no idea what to do. I am trying desperately to keep her happy and allow e as much freedom as I can, but she takes complete advantage and still doesn't get the work done. I used to spend a lot of time yelling and being much more strict, but that wasn't working. Nothing is working. We cannot afford therapy or psychiatrist. I know that professional help is in need, but we cannot afford it. I can't talk to anyone I know about this because none of them realize how bad things are. Does anyone have any advice? I feel so alone and desperate in this.