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<blockquote data-quote="Tanya M" data-source="post: 640278" data-attributes="member: 18516"><p>Hi Mya,</p><p>Welcome. I'm glad you found this forum but sad you had to.</p><p>Your families safety comes first. I understand that this is a special situation in that you are the step-mom.</p><p></p><p></p><p>I think you making this clear to your husband is very smart. Be prepared that you, your son and pets may be the ones who have to leave. Of course it is my hope that your husband will understand how serious this is. It can be hard on a mans ego that he cannot "fix" this type of situation.</p><p></p><p>I too was afraid of my own son. We also had put a lock on our bedroom door. That helped somewhat, at least at night I felt I could sleep a little better until one night we awoke to find our son in our room stealing money out of my husband wallet. He managed to pick the lock. Then we installed a dead bolt. I came home from work one day to find a huge hole in the door. He had taken a hammer to break in, once again looking for money.</p><p></p><p>With my son running away from home, ditching school and setting the field behind the school on fire, we became well acquainted with the courts and police. It was the judge who said that my son needed to be placed in a group home as it was not safe for my husband and I to have him in our home. Of course this did not happen right away. First the courts ordered us into family counseling, that went on for a year and my difficult child's behavior did not improve.</p><p></p><p>It's good to keep records of everything and like MWM said, if you can video some of the behavior it may prove to be very helpful.</p><p></p><p>My heart breaks for what you are dealing with but know that you are not alone. You will find good advice on these pages and lots of wonderful support.</p><p></p><p>I'm hoping that the court will find in your favor and order him into residential treatment.</p><p></p><p>Please let us know how things go.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Tanya M, post: 640278, member: 18516"] Hi Mya, Welcome. I'm glad you found this forum but sad you had to. Your families safety comes first. I understand that this is a special situation in that you are the step-mom. I think you making this clear to your husband is very smart. Be prepared that you, your son and pets may be the ones who have to leave. Of course it is my hope that your husband will understand how serious this is. It can be hard on a mans ego that he cannot "fix" this type of situation. I too was afraid of my own son. We also had put a lock on our bedroom door. That helped somewhat, at least at night I felt I could sleep a little better until one night we awoke to find our son in our room stealing money out of my husband wallet. He managed to pick the lock. Then we installed a dead bolt. I came home from work one day to find a huge hole in the door. He had taken a hammer to break in, once again looking for money. With my son running away from home, ditching school and setting the field behind the school on fire, we became well acquainted with the courts and police. It was the judge who said that my son needed to be placed in a group home as it was not safe for my husband and I to have him in our home. Of course this did not happen right away. First the courts ordered us into family counseling, that went on for a year and my difficult child's behavior did not improve. It's good to keep records of everything and like MWM said, if you can video some of the behavior it may prove to be very helpful. My heart breaks for what you are dealing with but know that you are not alone. You will find good advice on these pages and lots of wonderful support. I'm hoping that the court will find in your favor and order him into residential treatment. Please let us know how things go. [/QUOTE]
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