Hi,. Please could someone help as we are so exhausted. Our five year old girl (who we totally adore) has so many issues. We try so hard to deal with each one in a positive, upbeat manner. We are so careful with how we respond and don't ever label her. I am a teacher and I am.aware of the power of words. We have tried behaviour modification with rewards, charts etc. But they just don't work. Her issues are; getting dressed is a nightmare as everything itches and hurts her. Going to the toilet is an obsession and she wipes herself so much that she can easily use one roll.of toliet paper.in one session. Bedtime is a nightmare of screaming, she kicks us, punches us, bites us. We try to stay calm and have tried every bedtime trick going. For a while we have deluded ourselves that we can deal with it. She is so fearful and anxious. We can't leave it any longer. She has no problems at school and socialises well, except she tends to be quire bossy. She is intelligent and has an amazing memory. Can anyone point us in the right direction?