Oy, Oy, Oy

Discussion in 'Substance Abuse' started by everywoman, Apr 22, 2013.

  1. everywoman

    everywoman Active Member

    Ex is headed to rehab AGAIN. The house has been foreclosed on. My children are having to deal with cleaning up his mess---a role that used to be my responsibility. Ugh!! I hate drugs.
  2. scent of cedar

    scent of cedar New Member

    Oh, no! I hate them, too. (Drugs.) Are the kids going to be okay?

  3. AmericanGirl

    AmericanGirl Member

    I'm so sorry that your children are bearing the load. I've been there with my mother. It isn't easy.

    Are they going to Al-anon, etc.? Hoping this stay kicks in and he stays sober. Hugs...
  4. busywend

    busywend Well-Known Member Staff Member

    Ugh! So sorry to hear this! Your kids dont need this....but maybe it will teach them a few things that will be valuable in their lives. Trying to find a positive here. Ugh!
  5. everywoman

    everywoman Active Member

    Thanks ladies. The kids are fine---they are old enough and have lived through this enough that they all have good heads on their shoulders. PCdaughter did ask husband if he would be willing to walk her down the aisle in September if her father is unable to get and keep himself clean. difficult child is okay---apparently had a moment this morning. Ex is taking out the brunt of his koi on him, but the two of them are always rubbing the other the wrong way. PCson is too busy raising his children and living his life to be too concerned. He is 2 1/2 hours away so he is not stuck in the midst of the mess like the other two.

    Trust me when I say Divorce does not make the problem go away. I'm just removed from the situation enough that it doesn't effect me personally, but I feel for the kids---no child should have to clean up a parent's mess!!!
  6. lovemysons

    lovemysons Well-Known Member

    Agreed, No one should have to clean up after a parents mess!

    I hope EX will seek a life of earnest recovery this time!

    It's good to see you,