mstang67chic
Going Green
...is driving husband and I nuts. Me more so than husband. I think husband is more frustrated and hurt because he's a man and he can't "fix" difficult child.
A brief run through to bring you up to speed. At least a few months back, difficult child quit taking his medications and for the entire school year, his second try at graduating HS has been less than stellar, as has his behavior at home. On Wednesday the 1st he was admitted to the psychiatric hospital for a suicide attempt a few days prior and was released the following Monday. Since he's been back home...nothing has changed other than he's (I believe) still taking the medications they put him back on while in the hospital.
Today, husband was off and called me at work. Seems he got a call from the school. Evidently, difficult child hasn't been going to any of his classes....just roams the halls. (Yeah I know.....WHERE are the school officials when he's doing this.) Today, his Teacher of record found him and took him to the class he was supposed to be in. Once there, difficult child flat out refused to go in so he went to the resource room to do some work. Apparently that bored him so he went roaming again. When found once more, he declared that he was done with school and was quiting. TOR said, ok, fine (difficult child is 19) and took him to the office to do the paperwork. I'm not too clear on this part as husband is at class and I won't get the complete story till later but there was something about another kid there that difficult child knows. difficult child told him bye, told the TOR that they wouldn't see him again and neither would husband and I then left without doing the paperwork. At this point, I told husband to call the police thinking that difficult child was again suicidal. Nope....he just meant that he was not only leaving school but our house too. Right after husband got off the phone with me, difficult child walked in the house. Seems he is moving in with a friend of his (who still lives with HIS parents) and is, as I type this, there (I'm assuming). Ironic part is, this friend is the same one difficult child loaned his cell phone too a few weeks ago. This kid, S, took it to Arkansas and after being asked politely to bring it back, racked up over 400 minutes on it and has "lost" the phone. We suspended the service to it of course and haven't heard one word since.
This is about the third time difficult child has "moved" out. Although....I did notice that this time his bike is gone and husband made sure the garage was locked up. The HOUSE was wide open but he did remember the garage. But, the lock on the back door is broken anyway so until we get a new one on there, I'll have to rig something up and make sure all the windows are locked.
But I digress.
As I said, this is about the third time he's moved and I've had it. husband thinks he'll be back tonight but I really don't care. I'm sick of difficult child "moving" everytime he gets mad at us for expecting him to act in a reasonable manner. And by reasonable I mean speaking with the minimum of respect and courtesy to husband and I, follow the most basic of house rules and pretty much act like a human being who wasn't raised in the wild. Granted, as difficult child's go, we could have it much much worse but I'm still sooooo bleeping sick of this carp.
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Sorry...got distracted by the Schwan's truck stopping at the neighbors. (I kind of hijacked him)
Anyway, husband is home now. difficult child told him that it's the SCHOOL'S fault all of this happened and besides....WE are the ones pushing for him to finish school. He doesn't WANT to go to school.
Whatever.
I told husband I'm sick of this and he agrees. Neither of us trust S so husband just left to get a new lock for the back door so we can lock the place up. It won't protect the windows but if difficult child decides to break a window to get in.....more chance of getting caught.
I had a thought too....can I call the police department and tell them that husband and I are the only residents of our house and no one and/or difficult child is not allowed here when we aren't home? I'm thinking that if the neighbors see difficult child here when we aren't, I can have them call the police (or us) and this could help us if difficult child tries to say that we gave him permission. (which we wouldn't)
I need a sabbatical from difficult child'dom.
Sorry this is so long and kudos to you if you read all the way through! LOL I'm just so......I don't even know anymore. Tired, frustrated, fed up, mad, hurt...you all know the drill.
Thanks for letting me vent.
A brief run through to bring you up to speed. At least a few months back, difficult child quit taking his medications and for the entire school year, his second try at graduating HS has been less than stellar, as has his behavior at home. On Wednesday the 1st he was admitted to the psychiatric hospital for a suicide attempt a few days prior and was released the following Monday. Since he's been back home...nothing has changed other than he's (I believe) still taking the medications they put him back on while in the hospital.
Today, husband was off and called me at work. Seems he got a call from the school. Evidently, difficult child hasn't been going to any of his classes....just roams the halls. (Yeah I know.....WHERE are the school officials when he's doing this.) Today, his Teacher of record found him and took him to the class he was supposed to be in. Once there, difficult child flat out refused to go in so he went to the resource room to do some work. Apparently that bored him so he went roaming again. When found once more, he declared that he was done with school and was quiting. TOR said, ok, fine (difficult child is 19) and took him to the office to do the paperwork. I'm not too clear on this part as husband is at class and I won't get the complete story till later but there was something about another kid there that difficult child knows. difficult child told him bye, told the TOR that they wouldn't see him again and neither would husband and I then left without doing the paperwork. At this point, I told husband to call the police thinking that difficult child was again suicidal. Nope....he just meant that he was not only leaving school but our house too. Right after husband got off the phone with me, difficult child walked in the house. Seems he is moving in with a friend of his (who still lives with HIS parents) and is, as I type this, there (I'm assuming). Ironic part is, this friend is the same one difficult child loaned his cell phone too a few weeks ago. This kid, S, took it to Arkansas and after being asked politely to bring it back, racked up over 400 minutes on it and has "lost" the phone. We suspended the service to it of course and haven't heard one word since.
This is about the third time difficult child has "moved" out. Although....I did notice that this time his bike is gone and husband made sure the garage was locked up. The HOUSE was wide open but he did remember the garage. But, the lock on the back door is broken anyway so until we get a new one on there, I'll have to rig something up and make sure all the windows are locked.
But I digress.
As I said, this is about the third time he's moved and I've had it. husband thinks he'll be back tonight but I really don't care. I'm sick of difficult child "moving" everytime he gets mad at us for expecting him to act in a reasonable manner. And by reasonable I mean speaking with the minimum of respect and courtesy to husband and I, follow the most basic of house rules and pretty much act like a human being who wasn't raised in the wild. Granted, as difficult child's go, we could have it much much worse but I'm still sooooo bleeping sick of this carp.
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Sorry...got distracted by the Schwan's truck stopping at the neighbors. (I kind of hijacked him)
Anyway, husband is home now. difficult child told him that it's the SCHOOL'S fault all of this happened and besides....WE are the ones pushing for him to finish school. He doesn't WANT to go to school.
Whatever.
I told husband I'm sick of this and he agrees. Neither of us trust S so husband just left to get a new lock for the back door so we can lock the place up. It won't protect the windows but if difficult child decides to break a window to get in.....more chance of getting caught.
I had a thought too....can I call the police department and tell them that husband and I are the only residents of our house and no one and/or difficult child is not allowed here when we aren't home? I'm thinking that if the neighbors see difficult child here when we aren't, I can have them call the police (or us) and this could help us if difficult child tries to say that we gave him permission. (which we wouldn't)
I need a sabbatical from difficult child'dom.
Sorry this is so long and kudos to you if you read all the way through! LOL I'm just so......I don't even know anymore. Tired, frustrated, fed up, mad, hurt...you all know the drill.
Thanks for letting me vent.
