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Painful encounter with my sister. What a surprise! (*Sarcasm, here)
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<blockquote data-quote="AppleCori" data-source="post: 702710" data-attributes="member: 16024"><p>Copa,</p><p></p><p>You shouldn't be ashamed for reaching out, for being the bigger person, for wishing someone well.</p><p></p><p>I'm sorry she chose to be cruel, but that small-mindedness doesn't negate the fact that you did the right thing.</p><p></p><p>You should be proud that you tried to let go of the past and mend your relationship. A good deed is still a good deed, despite the reaction of the receiver. </p><p></p><p>Let it go, now. </p><p></p><p>But don't be ashamed or belittled by the fact that you tried. </p><p></p><p>To put yourself out and risk potential rejection is a hard thing to do. </p><p>It takes a strong person to do this, not a weak, petty, angry, small person. The kind of person that will lash out and belittle someone for no reason is not the kind of person that you want to be. It is not the kind of person that you are. </p><p></p><p>Think about it--would you like to be the person who enjoys being mean, holding grudges, or making others feel bad? What a sad existence that would be. </p><p></p><p>She s a miserable person and wants everyone else to be miserable with her. Don't fall for it. Feel sorry for her, but don't give her the power to make you feel bad about yourself. That is the only way that she wins.</p><p></p><p>I bet, while she enjoys the feeling of lashing out at you with her words, a part of her is angry at you for being a bigger person that can reach out in love and forgiveness and understanding, extending an olive branch. It will eat away at her that you are in such a good place in your life, that you are not spending your life seething in anger and resentment, but have a heart big enough to include her. She hates that. </p><p></p><p>So, did she really win? No, and she knows it. And she hates that. And the cycle continues. </p><p></p><p>You tried, that's all you can do. </p><p></p><p>Let it go, but be glad that you at least tried.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="AppleCori, post: 702710, member: 16024"] Copa, You shouldn't be ashamed for reaching out, for being the bigger person, for wishing someone well. I'm sorry she chose to be cruel, but that small-mindedness doesn't negate the fact that you did the right thing. You should be proud that you tried to let go of the past and mend your relationship. A good deed is still a good deed, despite the reaction of the receiver. Let it go, now. But don't be ashamed or belittled by the fact that you tried. To put yourself out and risk potential rejection is a hard thing to do. It takes a strong person to do this, not a weak, petty, angry, small person. The kind of person that will lash out and belittle someone for no reason is not the kind of person that you want to be. It is not the kind of person that you are. Think about it--would you like to be the person who enjoys being mean, holding grudges, or making others feel bad? What a sad existence that would be. She s a miserable person and wants everyone else to be miserable with her. Don't fall for it. Feel sorry for her, but don't give her the power to make you feel bad about yourself. That is the only way that she wins. I bet, while she enjoys the feeling of lashing out at you with her words, a part of her is angry at you for being a bigger person that can reach out in love and forgiveness and understanding, extending an olive branch. It will eat away at her that you are in such a good place in your life, that you are not spending your life seething in anger and resentment, but have a heart big enough to include her. She hates that. So, did she really win? No, and she knows it. And she hates that. And the cycle continues. You tried, that's all you can do. Let it go, but be glad that you at least tried. [/QUOTE]
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