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Panic...He's coming over.
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 691587" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>I get it. I wish I didn't. They can only break our hearts for so long before some of us just don't want to or can't do it anymore or both.</p><p></p><p>Do not feel guilty about your feelings. Yes, he is your son, and you love him, but maybe you don't LIKE him. If he were not your son you probably would not want to know him. That is due to his actions, not you. Nobody wants constant drama and angst and abuse from an adult.</p><p></p><p>If you want your feelings to be validated, I do validate them. I get it. You are not a bad person. You are in self protection mode and needing to take care of yourself. That includes trying to minimise our contact time with difficult people.</p><p></p><p>You are trying to love yourself and that's good. Your son needs to learn to respect his mother or you aren't going to be thinking he's a good guy. It's normal.</p><p></p><p>You can see him once in a while without enmeshing yourself in his life. Don't feel guilty if you decide to keep him at a distance unless he straightens out his life. Only HE can do that.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 691587, member: 1550"] I get it. I wish I didn't. They can only break our hearts for so long before some of us just don't want to or can't do it anymore or both. Do not feel guilty about your feelings. Yes, he is your son, and you love him, but maybe you don't LIKE him. If he were not your son you probably would not want to know him. That is due to his actions, not you. Nobody wants constant drama and angst and abuse from an adult. If you want your feelings to be validated, I do validate them. I get it. You are not a bad person. You are in self protection mode and needing to take care of yourself. That includes trying to minimise our contact time with difficult people. You are trying to love yourself and that's good. Your son needs to learn to respect his mother or you aren't going to be thinking he's a good guy. It's normal. You can see him once in a while without enmeshing yourself in his life. Don't feel guilty if you decide to keep him at a distance unless he straightens out his life. Only HE can do that. [/QUOTE]
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