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<blockquote data-quote="GoingNorth" data-source="post: 669586" data-attributes="member: 1963"><p>Terry, he's 18 years old, and you're still disciplining him as if he were a child. Don't take away his phone. Disconnect it!</p><p></p><p>It's time for you to quit paying his way. Completely. Buy diapers and clothing for the baby if you want to and if it would make you feel better, but it's time to cut your losses with Difficult Child.</p><p></p><p>It's no longer your problem if he finishes school or not, if he has a job or not. Those are his problems, and the consequences are his to bear. He seems to have grown up to want the thug life, and anything you do for him is not only contributing to that, but adding to his disrespect for you.</p><p></p><p>There's been a pattern over the years of not following through on consequences with your son; that and your husband not being on the same page with you. It's time Occupational Therapist (OT) break that pattern.</p><p></p><p>Let him go. Let him live the life he's chosen. Elsewhere. His behavior with women is execrable. The drug use is unacceptable for a new father. His refusal to find a steady job is reprehensible. All your continuring to support him in any way is doing is making it easier for him to continue in those behaviors.</p><p></p><p>He needs a swift kick in the arse, and the best source of that is going to be life. He can't get that life lesson with you running interference. Detach and let go of him. It's the only hope he has.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="GoingNorth, post: 669586, member: 1963"] Terry, he's 18 years old, and you're still disciplining him as if he were a child. Don't take away his phone. Disconnect it! It's time for you to quit paying his way. Completely. Buy diapers and clothing for the baby if you want to and if it would make you feel better, but it's time to cut your losses with Difficult Child. It's no longer your problem if he finishes school or not, if he has a job or not. Those are his problems, and the consequences are his to bear. He seems to have grown up to want the thug life, and anything you do for him is not only contributing to that, but adding to his disrespect for you. There's been a pattern over the years of not following through on consequences with your son; that and your husband not being on the same page with you. It's time Occupational Therapist (OT) break that pattern. Let him go. Let him live the life he's chosen. Elsewhere. His behavior with women is execrable. The drug use is unacceptable for a new father. His refusal to find a steady job is reprehensible. All your continuring to support him in any way is doing is making it easier for him to continue in those behaviors. He needs a swift kick in the arse, and the best source of that is going to be life. He can't get that life lesson with you running interference. Detach and let go of him. It's the only hope he has. [/QUOTE]
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