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<blockquote data-quote="GoingNorth" data-source="post: 669636" data-attributes="member: 1963"><p>A dad, I don't think there are rehab centers for those who only abuse marijuana.</p><p></p><p>However, Terry's son has used spice, abused alcohol, and I would be extremely surprised, based on his behavior, if he isn't using harder drugs. </p><p></p><p>The very first thing I would do if I were this child's parents and unwilling to outright throw him out of the house as things stand, would be to insist on a broad panel hair analysis. </p><p></p><p>Not a urinalysis because there are ways to beat those, and because they only show use during a short period of time before the test, with marijuana showing for the longest period of time.</p><p></p><p>A hair test will show usage over a considerably longer period of time than a urinalysis will.</p><p></p><p>ANY chance of staying in the home would be contingent upon the results of that hair screen.</p><p></p><p>That said, assuming that VA is not a state that requires a parent to be responsible for a child past the age of 18, I wouldn't worry about choices between "rehab or get out" at this point. </p><p></p><p>Rehab is useless if there's no buy-in. I still think the only thing that has a hope of working is a serious reality check, and that is going to mean letting this boy-child who wants to play at being a man take a man's consequences for his behavior, e.g. putting him out of the family home.</p><p></p><p>He has a mother and child to support. No job. And he is tomcatting around with another woman who is risking, at best, being disowned by her family by being with him. An honorable man would not be with a woman who is risking her future to be with him. Not at this age. Terry's son has not shown himself to be honorable. Not as regards his son and his mother, and not as regards his girlfriend.</p><p></p><p>He has done nothing to deserve a comfy home, free meals, a warm bed, the things that as an adult are consequences of good and honorable behavior.</p><p></p><p>Let him bear the consequences of his behavior for a bit. It's the only thing that has a hope of turning him around at this point. </p><p></p><p>A dad, this young man is where he is today as the culmination of many years of behavior leading up to this point. In a sad way, what is happening now is in some ways predictable.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="GoingNorth, post: 669636, member: 1963"] A dad, I don't think there are rehab centers for those who only abuse marijuana. However, Terry's son has used spice, abused alcohol, and I would be extremely surprised, based on his behavior, if he isn't using harder drugs. The very first thing I would do if I were this child's parents and unwilling to outright throw him out of the house as things stand, would be to insist on a broad panel hair analysis. Not a urinalysis because there are ways to beat those, and because they only show use during a short period of time before the test, with marijuana showing for the longest period of time. A hair test will show usage over a considerably longer period of time than a urinalysis will. ANY chance of staying in the home would be contingent upon the results of that hair screen. That said, assuming that VA is not a state that requires a parent to be responsible for a child past the age of 18, I wouldn't worry about choices between "rehab or get out" at this point. Rehab is useless if there's no buy-in. I still think the only thing that has a hope of working is a serious reality check, and that is going to mean letting this boy-child who wants to play at being a man take a man's consequences for his behavior, e.g. putting him out of the family home. He has a mother and child to support. No job. And he is tomcatting around with another woman who is risking, at best, being disowned by her family by being with him. An honorable man would not be with a woman who is risking her future to be with him. Not at this age. Terry's son has not shown himself to be honorable. Not as regards his son and his mother, and not as regards his girlfriend. He has done nothing to deserve a comfy home, free meals, a warm bed, the things that as an adult are consequences of good and honorable behavior. Let him bear the consequences of his behavior for a bit. It's the only thing that has a hope of turning him around at this point. A dad, this young man is where he is today as the culmination of many years of behavior leading up to this point. In a sad way, what is happening now is in some ways predictable. [/QUOTE]
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