So the first thing difficult child wants to do with her paycheck is to get a cell phone. It would be nice to have contact that way with her. However, we have not given her a phone since first Residential Treatment Center (RTC) when she was 14. She used it at off hours, communicated with people we didn't know, made drug deals, used it sexting etc. She even ignored our calls when she wanted to. We feel that if she gets a phone, she is still a minor living in our home and it is subject to our rules. Even if she pays for it. She is not out of the woods yet and a phone could just be another problem. We told her we would randomly check the phone and she had to give it to us at night. She said she felt like she needed some privacy somewhere. She said," You watch my every move, search my room and watch when I'm on the computer-Isn't that enough for you guys? I don't think she is fully ready to trust. What would you do?