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<blockquote data-quote="Janna" data-source="post: 9984" data-attributes="member: 2737"><p>Well, here's my .02 coming from a parent with a child that has ADHD AND another child that is Bipolar.</p><p></p><p>I treat all of my children exactly the same and give them all the same expectations. Chores. Homework. Rules. Consequences. Rewards. All equally.</p><p></p><p>I started a rigorous behavior modification about 4 years ago. This was before we knew Dylan was Bipolar. Before we knew easy child was ADHD. I just knew my kids were out of control and they were taking advantage of me big time.</p><p></p><p>Once I learned to say what I mean, mean what I say, and keep to a pretty strict regime of rules/rewards and consequences, it got better. It took a LONG time to get to where we are today. In all honesty, Dylan, my Bipolar child, did okay 50% of the time. Unstable on medications, it was very hard for him, but we always kept the same rules for him that we did for all the others.</p><p></p><p>For me, I am not going to allow my child to grow up saying or thinking "oh well, I'm Bipolar, I don't have to....." or "oh, well, I'm Bipolar, they can make a special exception for me", or any other sort. I'm trying to keep him as normal as normal can be. And you know something? Now stable on the right medications, I have absolutely no issues with him. The "ODD" - gone. He gets up in the A.M., no issues, is the first one ready for school. Comes home, lays out the book bag, does homework, gets his shower, does his chores, the whole nine. I don't even have to ask twice. If he doesn't do something, he knows the consequence.</p><p></p><p>I'm not a big advocate on going easy on children because they have "issues". I agree they need some interventions, therapies and help along the way, but that shouldn't be forever.</p><p></p><p>And if you're not comfortable with the psychiatrist, I'd find another. I've had enough idiots give us an ADHD/ODD diagnosis. Don't need them.</p><p></p><p>Janna</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Janna, post: 9984, member: 2737"] Well, here's my .02 coming from a parent with a child that has ADHD AND another child that is Bipolar. I treat all of my children exactly the same and give them all the same expectations. Chores. Homework. Rules. Consequences. Rewards. All equally. I started a rigorous behavior modification about 4 years ago. This was before we knew Dylan was Bipolar. Before we knew easy child was ADHD. I just knew my kids were out of control and they were taking advantage of me big time. Once I learned to say what I mean, mean what I say, and keep to a pretty strict regime of rules/rewards and consequences, it got better. It took a LONG time to get to where we are today. In all honesty, Dylan, my Bipolar child, did okay 50% of the time. Unstable on medications, it was very hard for him, but we always kept the same rules for him that we did for all the others. For me, I am not going to allow my child to grow up saying or thinking "oh well, I'm Bipolar, I don't have to....." or "oh, well, I'm Bipolar, they can make a special exception for me", or any other sort. I'm trying to keep him as normal as normal can be. And you know something? Now stable on the right medications, I have absolutely no issues with him. The "ODD" - gone. He gets up in the A.M., no issues, is the first one ready for school. Comes home, lays out the book bag, does homework, gets his shower, does his chores, the whole nine. I don't even have to ask twice. If he doesn't do something, he knows the consequence. I'm not a big advocate on going easy on children because they have "issues". I agree they need some interventions, therapies and help along the way, but that shouldn't be forever. And if you're not comfortable with the psychiatrist, I'd find another. I've had enough idiots give us an ADHD/ODD diagnosis. Don't need them. Janna [/QUOTE]
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