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<blockquote data-quote="Nancy" data-source="post: 567571" data-attributes="member: 59"><p>This was so meaningful to me last night. I found myself being way too invested in difficult child's life again, worrying about how she was going to complete her community service or pay for the food items to the food bank required. Instead of trying to figure that out she was outpartying all day yesterday without a care in the world. I feel she is stuck too, not making any movement to be more responsible or do anything more with her life than menial jobs and collect whatever assistance she can. When the attorney asked her to sell herself so that she knew what to say to the judge all she could come up with was that she was a nice person. There seems to be nothing else going on in that head of hers and she doesn't seem to care that she will never achieve anything more than getting by day to day.</p><p></p><p>But I needed a reality check and you gave it to me. It is not my problem, it is not my community service to complete. I can't keep worrying everytime she goes out that she will get into trouble and be in jail finally, as her second chances have run out. I found myself wanting to take over her life too because after all I could do a much better job with it. I would know how to fix things and get her back on track if she would just do what I say. I must think I'm pretty powerful. </p><p></p><p>I am feeling better today, letting go a little more and allowing her to feel the consequences of her loife just a little more.</p><p></p><p>Thanks for the check.</p><p></p><p>Nancy</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nancy, post: 567571, member: 59"] This was so meaningful to me last night. I found myself being way too invested in difficult child's life again, worrying about how she was going to complete her community service or pay for the food items to the food bank required. Instead of trying to figure that out she was outpartying all day yesterday without a care in the world. I feel she is stuck too, not making any movement to be more responsible or do anything more with her life than menial jobs and collect whatever assistance she can. When the attorney asked her to sell herself so that she knew what to say to the judge all she could come up with was that she was a nice person. There seems to be nothing else going on in that head of hers and she doesn't seem to care that she will never achieve anything more than getting by day to day. But I needed a reality check and you gave it to me. It is not my problem, it is not my community service to complete. I can't keep worrying everytime she goes out that she will get into trouble and be in jail finally, as her second chances have run out. I found myself wanting to take over her life too because after all I could do a much better job with it. I would know how to fix things and get her back on track if she would just do what I say. I must think I'm pretty powerful. I am feeling better today, letting go a little more and allowing her to feel the consequences of her loife just a little more. Thanks for the check. Nancy [/QUOTE]
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