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<blockquote data-quote="Sue C" data-source="post: 21043" data-attributes="member: 87"><p>Ladies -- I am at the point of tears. I know Melissa is getting everything she wants. I want to take a solid stand. husband does not. I reminded him yesterday how we threw Angela out at age 19 and here Melissa is at age 21 and we are so frustrated with the situation...why do we put up with it? His response was that when we threw Angela out, she left on her own. He said he knows Melissa would not leave.</p><p></p><p>We did both scream at her not long ago to leave. She got into her car and sat there. Then she started beeping the horn. She finally got out, screaming and swearing at us (for the neighborhood to hear, of course), ran into the house, and locked herself into the bathroom for hours. She said we couldn't make her leave.</p><p></p><p>I tried telling husband that Melissa has all the power, and he said I don't want to hear anything about that "power cr*p." (A counselor once talked to us about it in regard to Angela having all the power way back when.)</p><p></p><p>The car is in husband's name because the insurance is cheaper that way, and we are paying the insurance. Yes, we pay for it. I know, dumb. But that was because she was going to school. I told husband that once she gets a job, she needs to pay for her own car insurance and for her cell phone. He says first let her work on paying up her credit card bills (which are astronomical for a 21 yr old) and her student loans which will begin soon.</p><p></p><p>The car is a 1992 and it was only $500. There are no payments on it for Melissa to make. (I know, she could be paying us back, but I know it won't happen.)</p><p></p><p>I know she needs to take ANY job she can get, but she won't do it. How do we MAKE her take any old job????? We are powerless unless we make her move out, and husband won't go that route.</p><p></p><p>husband and I spoiled Melissa. We know that we made a BIG mistake, but we can't go back and change that. How I wish we could.</p><p></p><p>Janet -- I told husband one day that if Melissa won't move out, then WE should move out and leave her there all alone. (I know this doesn't make sense, but it popped into my head.)</p><p></p><p>Sue</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Sue C, post: 21043, member: 87"] Ladies -- I am at the point of tears. I know Melissa is getting everything she wants. I want to take a solid stand. husband does not. I reminded him yesterday how we threw Angela out at age 19 and here Melissa is at age 21 and we are so frustrated with the situation...why do we put up with it? His response was that when we threw Angela out, she left on her own. He said he knows Melissa would not leave. We did both scream at her not long ago to leave. She got into her car and sat there. Then she started beeping the horn. She finally got out, screaming and swearing at us (for the neighborhood to hear, of course), ran into the house, and locked herself into the bathroom for hours. She said we couldn't make her leave. I tried telling husband that Melissa has all the power, and he said I don't want to hear anything about that "power cr*p." (A counselor once talked to us about it in regard to Angela having all the power way back when.) The car is in husband's name because the insurance is cheaper that way, and we are paying the insurance. Yes, we pay for it. I know, dumb. But that was because she was going to school. I told husband that once she gets a job, she needs to pay for her own car insurance and for her cell phone. He says first let her work on paying up her credit card bills (which are astronomical for a 21 yr old) and her student loans which will begin soon. The car is a 1992 and it was only $500. There are no payments on it for Melissa to make. (I know, she could be paying us back, but I know it won't happen.) I know she needs to take ANY job she can get, but she won't do it. How do we MAKE her take any old job????? We are powerless unless we make her move out, and husband won't go that route. husband and I spoiled Melissa. We know that we made a BIG mistake, but we can't go back and change that. How I wish we could. Janet -- I told husband one day that if Melissa won't move out, then WE should move out and leave her there all alone. (I know this doesn't make sense, but it popped into my head.) Sue [/QUOTE]
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