I just spoke with PO- he said we need to have our 90 day face-to-face meeting next week. This is after his typical "so how are you" questions where he asked it like it's in passing but won't accept the typical "ok, I guess" or "Fine, thank you" answer. So, he asked about HI and I tell him it's a no-go because I can't do what they want for the clearance without knowing difficult child can go with me, thus saving the cost of having to return to get him. He said "hmm". I said it's a catch-22 thing- no one wants to commit to anything so I can't do anything. He said "well, I'm sorry to hear that. But next week is when we need to talk about where difficult child's plans for release we'll discuss what you're going to do then". WTH? He knows I have no plans now- he's partially responsible for that by not sticking to what he told me. I have no job and can't even tell him where I will be living when difficult child is released. He obviously didn't care that I didn't get the HI job to work out and actually, his tone of voice sounded happy about it. Am I being paranoid by starting to think that the CSU people are trying to sabatoge any effort I make for difficult child to come home, to give them a legal reason to make sure he doesn't?