She's in jail again. As I type, the jail is calling. It's her. Wanting me to bail her out. Nope, not doing it. I am ignoring the calls. She goes in front of the judge Friday morning. I am a long time lurker of this forum and posted a few times when Difficult Child was much younger. She's 20 and has a multitude of problems. Adhd, lack of impulse control, mood disorder, mental instability. Thanks to this forum, my husband and I have been practicing detachment from her everyday drama. She has been couch surfing since April 2016. Dropped out of high school, no job. She has issues with mood, ADHD, an inability to get along with others. She lies and manipulate others around her. She got caught shoplifting 2 years ago. She was stealing our car at night and brought it home wrecked the next morning. She tried to blame a boyfriend for "vandalizing" the car. We called the police thinking it was vandalized. Turns out she stole the car, went joyriding and scraped a mailbox. We had her arrested and tossed in jail for 4 days till we bailed her out. That was Mother's Day. Ironic. Since then, she has had parole violations for pot. Tossed in jail again. She has a new boyfriend every 3 to 4 weeks. She had one over the summer and hoodwinked his family into thinking she was pregnant with twins. They kicked her out when they finally contacted me and I told them she was not pregnant. She is compulsive liar. She lies when she doesn't even need to. She has stolen small amounts of money from me while still living in the house. In November, she asked to come home and get some clothes. I picked her up and we went to the drugstore for an errand. She was standing very close to me. She must have watched my as I put my PIN number to pay for my items. Well, immediately, she jumped into the backseat of the car to look for a charger. That's where my purse was and of course she lifted my debit card. I found out the next day as I was paying for groceries I had $600 missing from my account. The bank is investigating. I have refused to communicate with her since, except for making sure she got to the ob/gyn for her nexplanon birth control. It is just so hurtful to steal from your mother who was helping you. Today's incident stemmed from her not allowing the probation officer look around where she was living. She was resistant and would not allow it. So he arrested her today. So even though she is really unstable and horrendous sometimes, I feel bad. Likely, because of Christmas. Thanks for listening. This forum is invaluable.