I got a text from difficult child last night. He was at work and wanted to know if there was any way I could pay his hotel for just one night? He is working full time, his girlfriend supposedly has gotten a lot more hours and cross training to work in two different departments, so should be getting a decent paycheck. He doesn't get paid until tonight and had some story about girlfriend lending her mother money last week and hasn't paid it back yet. I'm sure difficult child probably spent money on another car part because he's always dumping money into his car. I told him I am going to buy tires for my car today, which will take all the extra money I have and that I can't pay it. He said he'll have to ask the hotel to let him pay for tonight tomorrow when he gets paid. I said, o.k. goodnight! I almost asked where his money went, why he was short to pay his hotel when that is the only bill they have, etc. etc. etc., but I kept my mouth shut and my questions and opinions to myself. Like the alanon saying goes "hands off" Not my problem, not my business what he spent it on. He needs to learn how to budget to pay for his hotel, or sleep in his car a night or too until he figures it out.