When working out sums - 2 plus 7, for example - J always counts on his fingers. I have told him in the past, and again tonight, no you don't need to do that... Then suddenly I realised - he does need to do that. He needs to see something concrete, real. The abstract concept is not meaningful to him. This is also the problem he has with reading. This is telling me something important about how he needs to learn. I feel sure now he is like a fish out of water in the conventional system and, wouldn't you know it, I live in an area where there is absolutely no alternative school within daily travelling distance. Feel I should take him out of school now, having wild ideas about teaching him to read myself by alternative methods (not geared up at all for that and what about my work), know that would be best for him... but uprooting him from here. Not the best for him. Anyway, sorry about my agonisings, which may not seem significant. But there is something different about the learning styles of our different children.