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<blockquote data-quote="Fran" data-source="post: 14776" data-attributes="member: 3"><p>Amy, it's pretty difficult to have to deal with a difficult child let alone a life mate who is throwing more fuel on the fire. I'm sorry for you. It makes the journey so much harder. </p><p>The truth is your husband knew you had 2 son's when you married. Although he is the step, he is still part of this blended family. We don't really get to give up on our kids. He doesn't either. </p><p>I appreciate he has issues. Who doesn't? He can get help, stay quiet and fume but he isn't supposed to turn this around to make your dealings with difficult child harder. He is supposed to be the support for you. </p><p>What happens if one of his daughters is a difficult child? Should you both give up? It just doesn't make sense for parents to think this way. </p><p>As far as family being more support. Sometimes they are but most times they aren't. I hope your family will be the support you think.</p><p></p><p>I hope your husband realizes these kids are difficult but they need parents. We don't like the chaos and emotional outbursts from the difficult child but they still need us. He doesn't realize how important he is in this boy's life. </p><p>He shouldn't make you decide between him and your son. It is cruel and unloving. He will lose every time. You have to be your son's advocate. </p><p>I'm not saying that you aren't to be sympathetic to tough job it is to be a step. He gets lots of the work and not a lot of recognition. </p><p>I hope he comes to see what he is doing to you and works to be a part of a team to parent the children. All of them. </p><p>Hugs, Amy. This is a tough job.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Fran, post: 14776, member: 3"] Amy, it's pretty difficult to have to deal with a difficult child let alone a life mate who is throwing more fuel on the fire. I'm sorry for you. It makes the journey so much harder. The truth is your husband knew you had 2 son's when you married. Although he is the step, he is still part of this blended family. We don't really get to give up on our kids. He doesn't either. I appreciate he has issues. Who doesn't? He can get help, stay quiet and fume but he isn't supposed to turn this around to make your dealings with difficult child harder. He is supposed to be the support for you. What happens if one of his daughters is a difficult child? Should you both give up? It just doesn't make sense for parents to think this way. As far as family being more support. Sometimes they are but most times they aren't. I hope your family will be the support you think. I hope your husband realizes these kids are difficult but they need parents. We don't like the chaos and emotional outbursts from the difficult child but they still need us. He doesn't realize how important he is in this boy's life. He shouldn't make you decide between him and your son. It is cruel and unloving. He will lose every time. You have to be your son's advocate. I'm not saying that you aren't to be sympathetic to tough job it is to be a step. He gets lots of the work and not a lot of recognition. I hope he comes to see what he is doing to you and works to be a part of a team to parent the children. All of them. Hugs, Amy. This is a tough job. [/QUOTE]
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