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<blockquote data-quote="SRL" data-source="post: 13370" data-attributes="member: 701"><p>Hi myfirstandlast, I'm glad you found us. </p><p></p><p>I have a child who is almost 11 that leans in the direction of Asperger's but falls short of meeting the criteria. He was seen by a developmental pediatrician for that diagnosis but if you haven't already, the specialist to see for an 11 year old would be a neuropsychologist. Our school district has a good grasp on the spectrum nature of Autistic Spectrum Disorders so the fact that he leans in that direction was enough for them to really work with us on his issues. Otherwise it's often a tough position to be in without a diagnosis.</p><p></p><p>Knowing exactly where he stood diagnosis-wise was critical because it pointed me in the direction of resources and parents that were helpful. Because all of his symptoms fell under that Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) umbrella (even though he didn't have all of them) we looked at what helped Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) kids and often found it worked with him. I'm all for borrowing from whatever camp of info is the closest fit!</p><p></p><p>The second thing that has helped was having to do a mindwipe on interpreting my son's behavior because what I often found out in the end is that he had a perfectly good explanation for it but I couldn't see it from my point of view. From my point of view my son's refusal to eat most foods in a very specific way seemed stubborn, unhealthy and unreasonable. But when I learned he had a condition called Sensory Integration Dysfunction that caused taste, odors, noises and sounds to be blown way out of proportion from what most of us would experience, it all started to make sense. The narrow foods are "safe" because they don't deliver an assault to his senses. When I thought about what it would be like to go through life with the repulsive feeling I had at certain foods when I was pregnant, I started feeling more sympathetic than frustrated. Problems with showers and bathroom skills are very common for individuals with sensory issues. </p><p></p><p>The Explosive Child has been a godsend to us because it helped me to stop making a big deal out of the stuff that didn't matter in order to give my difficult child's Automatic Authority Overreactor time to settle down. Right now when everything about this kid seems to be wrong you need to step back and really prioritize what's important. in my opinion, issues like hanging up clothes and table manners can go on the backburner until he's calmed down and the two of you are working together in a more functional manner. My difficult child doesn't cope with homework after school or in the evenings at all--he's just too shot from a day of school. It took awhile to find something that worked and finally realized that giving him the choice of him getting up early to do homework before playing Gameboy reduced conflicts by about 98%. It took into account his issues, gave him a choice, and provided an incentive--just what he wound up needing. </p><p></p><p>I hope you'll hang around--I've learned a ton from the parents on this board and my difficult child is doing great. But it's only that way because I was willing to change my attitudes and actions so that he could change accordingly. Kids with this profile rarely will meet expectations the way a typical child will.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="SRL, post: 13370, member: 701"] Hi myfirstandlast, I'm glad you found us. I have a child who is almost 11 that leans in the direction of Asperger's but falls short of meeting the criteria. He was seen by a developmental pediatrician for that diagnosis but if you haven't already, the specialist to see for an 11 year old would be a neuropsychologist. Our school district has a good grasp on the spectrum nature of Autistic Spectrum Disorders so the fact that he leans in that direction was enough for them to really work with us on his issues. Otherwise it's often a tough position to be in without a diagnosis. Knowing exactly where he stood diagnosis-wise was critical because it pointed me in the direction of resources and parents that were helpful. Because all of his symptoms fell under that Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) umbrella (even though he didn't have all of them) we looked at what helped Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) kids and often found it worked with him. I'm all for borrowing from whatever camp of info is the closest fit! The second thing that has helped was having to do a mindwipe on interpreting my son's behavior because what I often found out in the end is that he had a perfectly good explanation for it but I couldn't see it from my point of view. From my point of view my son's refusal to eat most foods in a very specific way seemed stubborn, unhealthy and unreasonable. But when I learned he had a condition called Sensory Integration Dysfunction that caused taste, odors, noises and sounds to be blown way out of proportion from what most of us would experience, it all started to make sense. The narrow foods are "safe" because they don't deliver an assault to his senses. When I thought about what it would be like to go through life with the repulsive feeling I had at certain foods when I was pregnant, I started feeling more sympathetic than frustrated. Problems with showers and bathroom skills are very common for individuals with sensory issues. The Explosive Child has been a godsend to us because it helped me to stop making a big deal out of the stuff that didn't matter in order to give my difficult child's Automatic Authority Overreactor time to settle down. Right now when everything about this kid seems to be wrong you need to step back and really prioritize what's important. in my opinion, issues like hanging up clothes and table manners can go on the backburner until he's calmed down and the two of you are working together in a more functional manner. My difficult child doesn't cope with homework after school or in the evenings at all--he's just too shot from a day of school. It took awhile to find something that worked and finally realized that giving him the choice of him getting up early to do homework before playing Gameboy reduced conflicts by about 98%. It took into account his issues, gave him a choice, and provided an incentive--just what he wound up needing. I hope you'll hang around--I've learned a ton from the parents on this board and my difficult child is doing great. But it's only that way because I was willing to change my attitudes and actions so that he could change accordingly. Kids with this profile rarely will meet expectations the way a typical child will. [/QUOTE]
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