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<blockquote data-quote="BTDT" data-source="post: 13373" data-attributes="member: 3401"><p>Dear my first and last,</p><p></p><p>Bless your darlng heart. I don't know your child's official diagnosis, but that sounds exactly like ODD to me.</p><p></p><p>And with divorce it's double tough because kids with ADHD/ODD play on weaknesses between the parents and voila. So this is what you get, and it sucks big time as you well know.</p><p></p><p>And don't be surprised if 99% of what you hear about what your ex thinks about you has been greatly exaggerated (if not completely fabricated) by your son. (Who takes great delight in your pained expression when he tells you about your ex's hot blond size-two girlfriend and their new Ferrari, right? Or how they bought him a new motorcycle or how they're so cool cause they smoke pot and drink slammers for breakfast, whatever gets your goat the most.) So breath deep. </p><p></p><p>Here's what I want you to try the next time you hear that comment about going to live at dad's. </p><p></p><p>Just look at him calmly listening while you gather a pen and three pieces of paper and three envelopes nodding your head yes while you say, "I hear you Son, so go ahead and write that out by hand three times, and address one to the judge, and I'll take the judge's impartial decision. Let me know when you're ready to look up ALL the addresses in the phone book." (Your son hates to write, right?) And walk outta the room. (But wait until you get around the corner to peek back 'cause you're gonna die laughing when you see the look on his face :smile:</p><p></p><p>This is my humble opinion. The fastest way to ease your pain. (And it's horrible horrible, I remember.) Find thee a play therapist as fast as you can. Look up my other posts on this. Get the best you can find. You will never get the results you seek from the talking kind of therapy. Sorry. Talking is completely useless.</p><p></p><p>And this will only get worse until you learn how to halt it. I could go on and on about other things that will definitely work. But first, he must stop treating you like garbage. That's why you're crying your eyes out. And that thrills him to no end. So whatever you do, don't let him see the tears. Yes, I'm sorry, he really is trying to make you miserable. That's ODD. And you must learn how to stop feeding it soon (because that's probably what you're doing and don't even know it), before he gets physical. </p><p></p><p>And I know these things work and am sharing them with you because someone was generous enough to tell me when my heart was breaking and getting trampled like yours. I can feel the hurt oozing from your words sopped with tears, and I want to help you because I've sooooo....</p><p>been there done that</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BTDT, post: 13373, member: 3401"] Dear my first and last, Bless your darlng heart. I don't know your child's official diagnosis, but that sounds exactly like ODD to me. And with divorce it's double tough because kids with ADHD/ODD play on weaknesses between the parents and voila. So this is what you get, and it sucks big time as you well know. And don't be surprised if 99% of what you hear about what your ex thinks about you has been greatly exaggerated (if not completely fabricated) by your son. (Who takes great delight in your pained expression when he tells you about your ex's hot blond size-two girlfriend and their new Ferrari, right? Or how they bought him a new motorcycle or how they're so cool cause they smoke pot and drink slammers for breakfast, whatever gets your goat the most.) So breath deep. Here's what I want you to try the next time you hear that comment about going to live at dad's. Just look at him calmly listening while you gather a pen and three pieces of paper and three envelopes nodding your head yes while you say, "I hear you Son, so go ahead and write that out by hand three times, and address one to the judge, and I'll take the judge's impartial decision. Let me know when you're ready to look up ALL the addresses in the phone book." (Your son hates to write, right?) And walk outta the room. (But wait until you get around the corner to peek back 'cause you're gonna die laughing when you see the look on his face [img]:smile:[/img] This is my humble opinion. The fastest way to ease your pain. (And it's horrible horrible, I remember.) Find thee a play therapist as fast as you can. Look up my other posts on this. Get the best you can find. You will never get the results you seek from the talking kind of therapy. Sorry. Talking is completely useless. And this will only get worse until you learn how to halt it. I could go on and on about other things that will definitely work. But first, he must stop treating you like garbage. That's why you're crying your eyes out. And that thrills him to no end. So whatever you do, don't let him see the tears. Yes, I'm sorry, he really is trying to make you miserable. That's ODD. And you must learn how to stop feeding it soon (because that's probably what you're doing and don't even know it), before he gets physical. And I know these things work and am sharing them with you because someone was generous enough to tell me when my heart was breaking and getting trampled like yours. I can feel the hurt oozing from your words sopped with tears, and I want to help you because I've sooooo.... been there done that [/QUOTE]
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