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<blockquote data-quote="myfirstandlast" data-source="post: 13376" data-attributes="member: 3420"><p>I sent myself to my room last night to depressurize and laid in bed reading for a few minutes before trying to tackle dinner, etc. I could hear the boy and the girl in the next room. My 9 year old was reaming him for being mean and nasty to me, swear to God she sounded like she'd been taking college level psychiatric classes or at least been listening to DS's conversations with his psychiatric REALLY well ... Countered his attacks, asked him to back up his accusations, attempted to snuff his fuse. I had to contain laughter a few times when I heard her sounding like such a little adult. "Why are you being so negative?" or "Name 5 things that mom has done that are cruel." (He couldn't name any, just kept repeating there was too much, too much.)</p><p></p><p>She finally gave up on him and told him "I'm done listening to you." Not "shut up" or anything you'd think a 9 year old would counter with ... but "I'm done ..." LOL ... I'm half laughing and half crying because SHE is doing a better job at diffusing the situation than I am hiding in my room.</p><p></p><p>I finally came out and started making dinner, just ignored him and got around to doing stuff I had to do. Didn't speak except to tell him his dinner was ready. (There's another of his little rants from earlier, that I only FEED him because I'd be SUED if I didn't!) He went back to his room. Gave us both a little more time and then went to talk to him about the book report.</p><p></p><p>Gave him some time to decide what rewards or consequences should accompany each letter grade. Told him that I did not accept "missing assignment" as an option for this report. It is too important to his grade to let him get 0 points. Told him, you figure out what an A, B, C, D and E are "worth" and let him be. Later he came out and told me what he thought was fair. Pretty big rewards for A & B (I was going to protest, but in all actuality, I know better than to expect even a B at this stage, so I let them slide.) Smaller reward for a C. Rather strong consequences for a D or E. Told him to remember that HE picked those consequences himself. (No computer for weeks.)</p><p></p><p>Emailed the AI resource room teacher and let her know what was up. His "pre-writing" exercises had been good, she had reported on an IEP-related form I'd just gotten with his report card. When it comes down to writing in paragraphs, he shuts down. Hard.</p><p></p><p>He hugged me before bed. The mood swings are what get me the most, maybe. One minute, hates me, next minute, hugs me, next he might hate me again.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="myfirstandlast, post: 13376, member: 3420"] I sent myself to my room last night to depressurize and laid in bed reading for a few minutes before trying to tackle dinner, etc. I could hear the boy and the girl in the next room. My 9 year old was reaming him for being mean and nasty to me, swear to God she sounded like she'd been taking college level psychiatric classes or at least been listening to DS's conversations with his psychiatric REALLY well ... Countered his attacks, asked him to back up his accusations, attempted to snuff his fuse. I had to contain laughter a few times when I heard her sounding like such a little adult. "Why are you being so negative?" or "Name 5 things that mom has done that are cruel." (He couldn't name any, just kept repeating there was too much, too much.) She finally gave up on him and told him "I'm done listening to you." Not "shut up" or anything you'd think a 9 year old would counter with ... but "I'm done ..." LOL ... I'm half laughing and half crying because SHE is doing a better job at diffusing the situation than I am hiding in my room. I finally came out and started making dinner, just ignored him and got around to doing stuff I had to do. Didn't speak except to tell him his dinner was ready. (There's another of his little rants from earlier, that I only FEED him because I'd be SUED if I didn't!) He went back to his room. Gave us both a little more time and then went to talk to him about the book report. Gave him some time to decide what rewards or consequences should accompany each letter grade. Told him that I did not accept "missing assignment" as an option for this report. It is too important to his grade to let him get 0 points. Told him, you figure out what an A, B, C, D and E are "worth" and let him be. Later he came out and told me what he thought was fair. Pretty big rewards for A & B (I was going to protest, but in all actuality, I know better than to expect even a B at this stage, so I let them slide.) Smaller reward for a C. Rather strong consequences for a D or E. Told him to remember that HE picked those consequences himself. (No computer for weeks.) Emailed the AI resource room teacher and let her know what was up. His "pre-writing" exercises had been good, she had reported on an IEP-related form I'd just gotten with his report card. When it comes down to writing in paragraphs, he shuts down. Hard. He hugged me before bed. The mood swings are what get me the most, maybe. One minute, hates me, next minute, hugs me, next he might hate me again. [/QUOTE]
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