petrified for 23yo son..

[rebelson]

He said, if you want me to live tonight, give me the money, it's for real Mom.

Wow, what pressure for a mom! "if you want me to live tonight, give me the money, it's for real Mom.." Did you cave and give him the $? I don't know what I would've done with that scary verbiage....

Then 3 days later he calls and acts like nothing happened.

Yep. Exactly. His psychiatric and therapist in residential recently told me that I have to confront him (can be gently, not necessarily fighting) on these verbal abuses. Let him know they're intolerable, inappropriate and that I will not listen to them any more. He needs, wants me to confront him, subconsciously. Just like a toddler ready and tempted to touch the stove burner, while looking over at mom, waiting for her to say NO! Stop! They KNOW it's wrong, want to be held accountable. I had been failing to do this. I will start when/if I need to. Since son's' been out of residential and in sober living, he's been VERY nice, normal! My son is back! Praying it lasts and last.....

I'm sorry for your tears. Cry on, move through those feelings. Grieve.

Lol. This thread was like, one of my very 1st threads on here, very old! Copa reignited it...