Forums
New posts
Search forums
What's new
New posts
New profile posts
Latest activity
Internet Search
Members
Current visitors
New profile posts
Search profile posts
Log in
Register
What's new
Search
Search
Search titles only
By:
New posts
Search forums
Menu
Log in
Register
Install the app
Install
Forums
Parent Support Forums
Parent Emeritus
Phone Calls from 34yo starting up again
JavaScript is disabled. For a better experience, please enable JavaScript in your browser before proceeding.
You are using an out of date browser. It may not display this or other websites correctly.
You should upgrade or use an
alternative browser
.
Reply to thread
Message
<blockquote data-quote="Childofmine" data-source="post: 663849" data-attributes="member: 17542"><p>SS, I am sorry about those phone calls. I remember the tightening of my stomach when I would see # like those, and then the worry after. What is going on? Where is he? What does he want? Is he coming here? (then the PTSD sets in). Ugh. Then, later....at least I know he is alive. </p><p></p><p>You and your husband are remarkable. Amazing. I love that you tell us about how you and he are doing over the past two years, and how far you have come. </p><p></p><p>This stuff is impossible to "get." We will never "get" it. We can only let go of something we don't understand that is a part of somebody we love. </p><p></p><p>I'm glad you have a plan. I also see that if you don't feel a compulsion to further prepare yourself, beyond just making sure you and husband are on the same page if he shows up at the door, then don't. Don't use your precious recovery, good clear thinking and energy on what ifs and maybes. They are not likely to happen anyway. </p><p></p><p>I hope your son, in his own way, is moving forward on his journey, even if you and husband and we don't understand it. Maybe it's not ours to hold onto those we raise and love so dearly. Maybe, in some cases, it's just enough to have raised them, and then worked hard to let them go. </p><p></p><p>Thanks for your wisdom and grace.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Childofmine, post: 663849, member: 17542"] SS, I am sorry about those phone calls. I remember the tightening of my stomach when I would see # like those, and then the worry after. What is going on? Where is he? What does he want? Is he coming here? (then the PTSD sets in). Ugh. Then, later....at least I know he is alive. You and your husband are remarkable. Amazing. I love that you tell us about how you and he are doing over the past two years, and how far you have come. This stuff is impossible to "get." We will never "get" it. We can only let go of something we don't understand that is a part of somebody we love. I'm glad you have a plan. I also see that if you don't feel a compulsion to further prepare yourself, beyond just making sure you and husband are on the same page if he shows up at the door, then don't. Don't use your precious recovery, good clear thinking and energy on what ifs and maybes. They are not likely to happen anyway. I hope your son, in his own way, is moving forward on his journey, even if you and husband and we don't understand it. Maybe it's not ours to hold onto those we raise and love so dearly. Maybe, in some cases, it's just enough to have raised them, and then worked hard to let them go. Thanks for your wisdom and grace. [/QUOTE]
Insert quotes…
Verification
Post reply
Forums
Parent Support Forums
Parent Emeritus
Phone Calls from 34yo starting up again
Top