Hi. I am new to this site and was hoping that I could get some insight from many of you who seem to be going through similar problems with their child(ren). My daughter is 6 years old, and up until recently, I did not accept the fact that something just isn't normal about her. She has a lot of quirks and I could ramble on and on about them but I will try not. I am hoping that someone can tell me if their child "desired" to make them mad??? This is what she says. She says it is funny when I get mad...so, since finding this out and going through at least 5 -7 meltdown a week and realizing that if I raised my voice or showed her that her behavior was bothering me she seemed to continue the behavior simply for the negative attention, I have given up "fighting" with her. For the past week I have been trying to do the reverse of what she wants. So instead of getting mad or pushing an issue (as simple as taking a shower or brushing her teeth, eating dinner, etc.) I have decided the "whatever, if you don't want, I don't care anymore" approach with her. This still angers or frustrates her and she "wants" to fight. She tells me she wants me to get mad at her. Like I said, I have done the exact opposite of getting mad at her for the past week. When she hits me or throws things at me (for literally nor reason other than for me to get mad) I thank her and tell her what a nice daughter she is. If she says mean things to me like shutup, I hate you, your a big fat loser, I want to stab you with a knife, etc. I tell her that its very nice of her. This angers and frustrates her and she screams at me to get mad at her. Eventually she gives up and breaks down and cries like a baby stating that she wants me to get mad at her but she can't control it and that she "can't take it anymore." I am awaiting a phone call from a psychiatrist and this is truly breaking my heart. She is a very loved only child. I spend plenty of time with her and try to giver her positive attention and compliments (which can also anger her depending on her mood) with her as does my husband (her father). She is our world. I am just hoping if anyone has gone through dealing with a child who claims they want you to get mad, claims they can control when it happens and apparently where it happens?? How do I deal with her? What your child's dioagnosis. She is not a spoiled brat either...there are many other "different things" about her that I have not mentioned, some of which I can think about since birth, others that I can pinpoint to when she had turned about 3 and have just spiraled downhill from there... Thank you in advance for reading this and offering any advice or support as this is destroying me and I personally am a wreck over not knowing how to help my baby girl.